Intelligence is a virtue!

I got a rude awakening in my History 120 class today.

A guy in my group discussion today used our small group session has an excuse to hit on an attractive brunette. He more or less disregarded me and the other bright girl in the group and focused on this girl, even though she had NOTHING to contribute to the discussion. Nothing against her, she seemed sweet enough, what was so bothersome was the fact that I know they don't really know each other yet he thought it was so amusing to give her the answers and tease her for not comprehending the reading.

Jealousy? Not quite, I'm not attracted to the clown types. What annoyed me was the fact that he pointed out that the other girl and I in the group seemed like studious note-takers and she was just...whatever, yet was so fascinated with her. I know not all guys are like that, but I was so irritated. FIrst of all, it's a CLASS...pardon us, but its not the time to be dumbing down. Second, if someone's pretty you take a picture. If someone has substance, you hold on to them.

Now I know I'm generalizing, but I can't help but wonder...girl magazines and articles and the media shows us the ideal of "beauty" yet are always shoving down our throats that we are supposed to "embrace ourselves." Sometimes I feel like intelligence is just a fancy word and nobody really gives a damn unless its wrapped in a low-cut shirt and sexy leggings or has ripped, oiled-up abs.

There are half and half. a lot of people like intelligent girls and don't care about the looks. all they want is someone they love to love them back and don't really need the 'curves' or the skinny hips. then there's boys, and girls, who will only even attempt to date people for their looks. sometimes it works out, but it can drag you down and lessen your chances for love. i'd say ignore the fella, soon he'll be aware that you can't follow your eyes, you have to follow your mind. as for now, just focus on who YOU are fascinated by. i mean you can't blame him for liking her if he likes her, it might not even be influenced by celebrity magazines. (does he look like the kind of boy to read Hello?) some boys are just naturally attracted without the need of a shove in that direction. well, a lot of boys are actually.

Thats just the way the world is my friend.

thats the way we(doods) are

I detest this way of life, makes me hate me.

I guess that's life. Personally I wear low cut shirts or just corsets and fishnets but whatever. I like them and I don't really wear them for anyone or to attract attention. Individuality is dead. The revolution has arrived holding its powdered nose high.

That was catchy Jess (if i can call you that.)

Oh my lord, you are my hero. I feel exactly as you do. And I love the way you phrased your post, not yelling and frustrated, just straight forward. I have always felt this way...thank you for getting it out there.

I know exactly what are you talking about... I've been on your place in that kind of situations too many times to count. I think it's sad that some people view on the world from that side, just searching for a "beauty" (And we all know that the beauty is optional thing. Too many different people, too many different tastes. All that magazine articles that you mentioned really annoy me, cause there is no definition of beauty).

All in all I don't see the point in pointing out people's shallowness, because that kind of people never change.

In reality intelligence isn't celebrated, but beauty is. It will forever be...

Ugly Betty comes to mind!!

Haha Ugly Betty...

Yeah I know I should be proud of my intelligence, I'm not a genius, but I'm very bright because I've been blessed with a good education and natural reading ability...and I know I'm not ugly by any means, but unlike some girls I don't have that "wow!" factor and thats okay...it's just frustrating sometimes.

thanks for the replies though!

People are generally attracted by looks, and what we regard as looks is individual to each of us. My girlfriend would not be most other gay or mens ideal but thats just me. And in the end if you don't like there personality you wont hit it off in the long run. Its a bit like the big girl / skinner girl debate ... in the end everyone is different in there looks and also in there preferrences. I have to laugh though whenever someone says something doesn't bother them then starts to complain you know there is more behind it all. Wait for your clever cute guy... hes just around the corner.

I think its a little different.

people are attracted to confidence, not good looks. and what do you get from being attractive?
confidence.
there is plenty of "ugly" people in my HS that are worshiped on that ever-stereotypical platform known as the "popular" kids, Apparently those people are supposed to be attractive but some of them aren't (according to their own standards.)

so I think looks isn't as big a force as we're making it out to be.

...it still sucks for the people stuck on the other end nevertheless.

I'm 18, I'm not looking for a relationship just a good time. Some guys might be like that as well, don't take it offensively just because they go after someone hotter. It's just the way it is sometimes :)

The Song Writer, I really do think you have a good point. With some people, it doesn't matter and have confidence works wonders with looks.

Oh and Carrotgirl it DOES bother me lol so I wasn't denying, what I was saying is that I have nothing against the girl. I'm not the type of insecure girl who needs to call another girl a "slut" because she gets attention. IN fact, I despise that but yeah...

Thank you :)

...honestly, you don't know how hard it is for me to get someone to agree with me on this site, we're all so stubborn that it's amazing we actually have something thats generally viewed the same way by poets.

anyways

I actually wrote a poem that totally relates to this not too long ago that I'm about to add to here, read it if you want i really don't care. it's called "Romanticism is Dead"

I would agree with you.

One thing I absolutely love about my girlfriend is very intelligent. First off, I love not having to dumb down every other word so my girl can comprehend it. Second, I rather enjoy the fact that she cares about her future (thus grades) because I do love her and I want the best for her future. Third off, intelligent girls are just so appealing to me. Something about how I can have an intelligent conversation with them.

Note, I'm not say most girls are stupid. I'm saying a lot of them dumb themselves down or act stupid/ditzy so the majority of guys (who actually are stupid, lol) don't have problems understanding them or so they can feel superior (for the smarter, albeit still rather slow if they think they have to be superior in every way).

Girls (those who do dumb down) please stop acting stupid so the idiot jocks can have a chance. They don't deserve it unless they actually work up (with a lot more difficulty, for most of them, than a work out) to your level.

Well Angelina my theory is there is an idiot gene. Sad thing it looks more dominant than the intelligent gene.In fifty years there will be 4 1/2 billion blondes

Idiot gene?

Somebody failed the heredity chapter, didnt they?

I don't think we should associate intelligence or lack thereof with hair color. Thats the surest way to offending someone.

Awwwww but blond-jokes are just to darn funny...

There are very strong arguements for both sides here and I have to agree with both (the peace keeper) lol. Unfortunatly, maybe fortunatly I dont know whatever you're ideological views depend on, I have been both these type of girls. Once was just about beauty although I had intellegence, that didn't matter for I wanted to be 'Known' as it were.

Yes I was happy , for a while being the centre of attention was brilliant. Until I got with my boyfriend. Yes he was the same as me wanted beauty as opposed to looks, he even told me he just wanted to sleep with me like the rest of the 'boys' i went out with. But after a year of being in a relationship (i cant tell you if it was him or me?) I realised, oh my god I have destroyed my face and plastered some kind of barbie there instead.

Devestated i made a commitment to change mine and my boyfriends life. I fought and fought for two years for what was right and began to show the people who used to go out with me who i really was not caring what was said. I rose above rumours that i was cheating and playing my man because we believed in each other.

I now have my own style i wear what i want i sing what i want and talk to who i want without worrying about not setting the right impression for the 'coolness' of the situation. I have found that more people are interested in me now than ever. I have so many more offer to go out with boys than ever and they are REAl which is important, I dont care if they are smart of not, my boyfriend left school at 14... with serious problems. Personally i think its ADHD... SO? i love him and nobody or how intellegent he is, is NEVER going to change that.

thanks for reading lol xxx

Dave you make an excellent point. If I see a cute guy, I'll be honest, I don't really think about his intelligence until he opens his mouth. Whatever comes out I (unfortunately in a way) make a huge judgment on.

Oh and you're right, a smart beautiful whoever is not an oxymoron in any way but in this case it was, thats why I was frustrated.

People with more intelligence have more things to be afraid of.

ignorance is bliss.

I'll take intelligence over common sense. Intelligence is knowing the possible consequences of the risks I take. Common sense would only hinder me from taking those risks.