WHAT ITS LIKE TO BE 16 AND MARRIED!!

Ok, well i've been with owen since i was 14 and he was 15..now 2 years later we're married...I know most people would say that we're way to young to make such a big committment..and im not going to lie..its NOT easy..we have our disagreements, sometimes we argue and we dont always see eye to eye on everything.. but what couple doesnt go through that sometimes? lol..Anyways we're both in school and we both have jobs. Some people may think that being this young and married would be almost impossible..but we make it work! We share to much love and desire to be with each other that we know this is right for us..it may not be right for everyone though..so even though you may think you love your boyfriend/girlfriend with everything you are dont rush into marriage!!

And for those of you wondering..NO im not pregnant or planning on getting pregnant! Owen and I plan to have a baby when we both finish school and we both have good, steady jobs..we're smart enough to know to not rush into having a baby..

Well I just thought i'd give some of the readers on here an idea of what its like to me to be only 16 and married...HAPPILY MARRIED!!

Well we didnt feel the need to rush..we were always like best friends since we were in diapers and we got together 2 years ago and we just knew this is what we wanted to do with our lives..we knew we never wanted to be without each other and that we could make it work

We didnt have to..it was just a decision we made together..we could have waited until we were older but we knew we could make it work and took a chance..we both wanted it and its not like we just one day decided "Hey lets get married" and ran to the courthouse with our parents..we sat down and discussed all the things that could go wrong and what would happen if things didnt work out and how we would manage our lives...and we did..not the same day of course but we did..and everything is working out great

You'll be divorced by the time you finish high school.

I'll put a twenty on it.

Well everythings going great so far..i dont see how it could go wrong..but im not going to say that you're wrong and that we'll never break up because anything can happen..but im confident that we'll make it..i guess we'll just have to see

You're 16.

is he your first boyfriend?

Nah ive dated other guys here and there before i got with owen..all of them were nice but we never really clicked..and with me and owen everything clicked..and we just progressed from there..

And do you honestly feel that it would never have been worth waiting till you were a little older to marry? Perhaps given yourself more time to get to know people, broaden your knowledge and understanding of other men*(because Owen clearly isn't one) and not teenaged boys?
My humble opinion on this is that you've taken a huge step. But your foot's not landed and I don't think it's going to land very high.

Good luck with your 'Happily Married' life. Really, good luck.

What do your parents think of this? Wait a minute, are you even ALLOWED to get married at 16 (legally I mean)?

Good luck. Hope you don't get a crush on any guy you may meet during the school year. Seriously hope you have a decent life.

Viola, at first our parents were kind of sketchy about it..but if you read one of my responses to brittney you'll see where i told her how we all talked it out and dealt with it..

and yes you can get married legally before the age of 18..but you need parental consent..they need to sign the papers in order for it to become legal.

^AH, I see. Well I'm just going to say good luck in whatever you do. It wouldn't have been the right decision for me, but hey, you are a different person. And what wroks for one doesn't necessarily work for another.

--Viola

Make that $40

Ha.ha.ha.haa.ahhaahhaaaa.

K, I'm 17 and I can tell you that getting married this young wouldn't ever be the right choice for me but my grandmother married my grandfather when she was 16 and he was 21 and they were together till the day he died at the age of 81 ^_^ She followed him 2 years later because she didn't want to live without him ^_^ Yes, I believe that teenage marriages can work but only for certain people and I think that you and Owen have a good chance at it since you both seem to be very mature and looking at what could happen and all that ^_^ I'm not saying that I agree with teenage marriages because to much could happen and the two people could change way to much being teenagers but that doesn't mean that I'm going to hold that against anyone since it's just my view on life ^_^

I wish the very best to you and your husband =) Hopefully it works out for you and you two end up like my grandparents =)

Like people have said, whats right for one person might not be right for another so I don't think that I have a right to judge on this case ^_^ Your both very brave to be taking such a big step ^_^

~*Rhea*~

I really dont understand whats completly going on here...do you two live together...or do you live with one of your parents because your too young to buy or rent an apartment under your name right? Also not to be mean but i agree with Britt why wouldnt you two just wait untill you were atleast 18 i mean by then you wouldve known if you REALLY wanted to be together and you wouldve been able to know if it would really work. but i do wish you two all the best of luck.

K, I'm 17 and I can tell you that getting married this young wouldn't ever be the right choice for me but my grandmother married my grandfather when she was 16 and he was 21 and they were together till the day he died at the age of 81 ^_^ She followed him 2 years later because she didn't want to live without him ^_^ Yes, I believe that teenage marriages can work but only for certain people and I think that you and Owen have a good chance at it since you both seem to be very mature and looking at what could happen and all that ^_^ I'm not saying that I agree with teenage marriages because to much could happen and the two people could change way to much being teenagers but that doesn't mean that I'm going to hold that against anyone since it's just my view on life ^_^

I wish the very best to you and your husband =) Hopefully it works out for you and you two end up like my grandparents =)

Like people have said, whats right for one person might not be right for another so I don't think that I have a right to judge on this case ^_^ Your both very brave to be taking such a big step ^_^

~*Rhea*~

pretty much agree with that. i mean she is totally right. i love the idea of marriage but i most likely will get married more than once as much as i dont want to im that type of person.

xxo good luck in the future

Let's stop and look at this logically. I for one will not judge a person for getting married young. At the age of 17 I had a child and worked more than full time to provide for a home for me and my son.

With that said, please keep in mind that I do not mean to disrespect anyone.

Most individuals that decide to committ themselves into a relationship at such a young age end up in divorce before the age of 25.

Sadly, when they divorce it is not just the couple, but by this time they have children involved as well.

Very few marriages in our society make it now days. And this is when people wait until they are older and settled in life. Even less marriages amongst teenagers and young adults survive.

The common grounds of divorce is due to infedility. Face is guys, we are a nation of sexual desires. Next to adultry the next common ground is incapatability. My guess on this is that there is more in the marriage (such as adultry, abuse, etc) that no one wants to claim.

You married at a young age and now it is going to be up to you and your husband to make it work. The odds are against you, yes, but it is not impossible.

Make sure that you always have a "date" night at least twice a month. Even if it is a simple picnic or midnight drive to gaze at the stars.

Always keep the lines of communcation open. Be sure to listen carefully and acknowledge what each other is saying instead of the ya uhhu ok bit

This is a tough one, because we all fall into this trap. But when you are having problems, spats, or whatever, do not go to your parents or friends and complain how he/she just totally screwed up.

By doing this you are allowing outside individuals that are not nutrual to involve themselves in your marriage and suddenly a bed that was made for two is suddenly sleeping six. It just does not work very well and paves the road for you to give up easier.

Now, with that said I do want to clarify and say that if you do happen to find yourself in an controling or abusive relationship then you need to get out as fast and furious as you can. (Just a side note)

Do not forget to remind eachother that you love the other person and remember to give your spouse at least three compliments everyday. This will go a long way and reminds them that you do appreciate them.

Hold each other up. Do not bicker because one lacks in one areas that you do not. The truth is that is where you will need to step in and hold him/her up because in time they will be strong in an area that you lack and they will have to hold you up.

Marriage is hard and takes alot of work, dedication, communcation, trust, honest, faith, and love. Love alone will not concure all, but love will help give you the strength to continue working in an effort to concore all.

I do not nor would I ever reccomend that some one marries at such a young age; however, I will offer all the nowledge and wisdom that I can to any person that is married.

I wish the best for you both and I believe that as long as you both fight together instead of eachother then you will make it. Just remember where to draw the line and to fight together.

Good luck and God bless

~~Sher

My grandparents met and started dating when they were 16. They didn't get married until she was 19 and he was 20 something, but they just had their 50th wedding anniversary a couple years ago and they still love eachother to death :) I think that it is possible and I hope it works for you guys! These days it is just hard to tell, especially when you are so young.

Best of Luck!!!! :) <3

~Kat~

I'm not one to talk, i'm barely 19 and Marcus is 20 but we're enagaged so i'm not one to condone a young marriage.

Just keep this in mind. You are young and so is your husband and you're both going to have to put a helluva lot of work into making your marriage last the distance.
You seem to know what you're doing and from the way you talk, you seem very much in love so i wish you both all the luck in the world that you prove the critics wrong, including me in a way, lol
*Gem*

19 and 20 are different from 16.

Best of luck to both of you... i think what sher said was the wisest thing i've heard on this site in a while. well put.

yes yes yes, the odds are against you, hell, there are even people betting on your divorce... but the truth is the only opinions that matter are yours and your husbands.
and it is wise to, as you said, wait for a baby.

Anstly im happy your happy but isnt it just a few years to early im mean if you guys are in a good relationship than you should be ably to wait untill its legal if your worried that he would leave you by then
then you shouldnt have gotton together in the 1st place

Marriage is too serious of a committment for me to think that its possible for someone at such a young age. My parents were in their thirties when they got married and I feel like they still weren't ready because they ended up getting divorced. That being said, there are exceptions to every rule. I wish you luck...and really really hope for you.

"19 and 20 are different from 16."

Yes, they are. But i was merely pointing out that even that is a young age to be getting married.
Is that a problem?

Are you trying to instigate an arguement with a rude statement such as, "Is that a problem?". 19 and 20 year olds are considered adults. They've had time to mature, or so I thought with yourself. 16 isn't an age to get married at, their hormones are still majorly haywire. Maybe your's are as well, but not as badly. So no, there isn't a problem aside from your immaturity towards a comment in an opinonated debate.

Focus, Gem. I know you can.

How was that rude. I was sincerely asking if it was a problem? Why are you trying to start something?
You just took an innocent comment and tried to start your own.
Please stick to the topic at hand, i didn't mean anything by that 'rude comment', which wasn't meant to be rude.
So don't start please.
*Gem*

"19 and 20 year olds are considered adults. They've had time to mature, or so I thought with yourself. 16 isn't an age to get married at, their hormones are still majorly haywire. "

Again, Focus. I was.

Ahem.

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