How do I get my ex to leave me alone?

My ex just called and asked if he could sleep over next wekend. My b/f would totally freak because he doesn't like my ex because he was a bitch to me when we were going out...and I kind of think he was too...I'm trying to be nice to him becsuse he still thinks we are friends and if I was mean to him he'd really make my life hell...so how do I nicely tell him he can't sleep over...I even tried telling him I have to work all next weekend...he didn't care...he said he had to work too and would just wake up early and and leave for his job and I could leave for mine...How do I tell him no and be nice about it so I don't start a fight?

Umm make up something about having family over... or just tell him start up that you don't mind being friends with him but he can't stay the night because you have a boyfriend

Tell him your current boyfriend is staying there with you that weekend.

~~Sher

You can remain friends and be nice by telling him he can't stay over because you don't think it is appropriate.

That's it.

Tell him you have a boyfriend and he shouldnt even ask such a thing.
the end.

I've tried telling him I have a b/f and I tried telling him I have to work and I tried telling him I have school...It just doesn't sink in for him. He also called back last night and talked to my b/f and asked him if he could sleep over my b/f's house on a day when I am there. My b/f didn't want to say to much to him but he just told him no...So he said he was going to call my b/f's mother and ask her permission to which she said it was my b/f's choice not hers because it's his friend not hers. And if I just tell my ex straight up no I'm afraid he'll be mean to me because of things in the past like this and that was how he was.

Tell him he got u pregnant u will never see him again

Tell him to get the f&#% away. and maybe get a restraining order. he is getting scary, calling your bf's mom? wtf?!?!?! i know my boyfriend would flip out if one of my exes started doing these things...

Hey

tell him your staying over someone elses house

I'll try to think of something...and yeah he kind of is a psycho.

My b/f would totally kill him lol. Tell you ex that you really still want to be friends but dont really want him to stay round. Invite him out with you for a walk or something and just tel him you havem oved on. It's obvious he is still in love with you and will NOT give up unless you speak to him. xxx alex xxx

I just found out like a few days ago that he is actually hung up on his other ex...One of the girls he went out with after me...but yeah it kind of seems like he is hung up on me also...but he won't come right out and say that one...He would tell her he's hung up on her but he wouldn't tell me he's hung up on me (and I do think he is...and so does a lot of other people).

I'd get a restraining order against him. He is going over board.

Just tell him nicely and firmly, you're very happy with your boyfriend right now and he's overstepping the friendship mark.

I'll try that ^^. Actually he called twice today but I wasn't home, so I havn't called him back, and I don't think I will. I'll just talk to him if I'm ever home when he calls, but I will tell him no.

^ Good plan. Just don't give him any excuse to talk to you if you can help it. It may sound harsh but blanking him out like that may get the message across.

I thought he had gone away because I hadn't heard from him in a few days but he called back yesterday, I was home but I didn't answer the phone. He called my b/f today and said that he was going to stop by my house at 5 to hang out with us and drop off 2 bags of his stuff for me to hold. I told my b/f to call him back and tell him we weren't going to be home at 5 because I was taking him out for his birthday, even thought we are actually going out at 7. My b/f told me that he didn't think my ex would believe it coming from him so I told him to call him back and tell him that it was comming from me just that I couldn't call him right now because I'm almost out of cell phone minutes. and I'm not home...Why doesn't he get the message? Why won't he go away? I hope I'm doing the right thing.

Sweetie, tell him straight.
Obviously the subtle approach isn't working so i'd say it right out that you're not happy with how he interfering with your boyfriend and you.
Just tell him straight out that you want him to stop hasselling you or you're taking out an injunction against him.
Hopefully that will get the message across once and for all.
As for tonight, on no account let him in. Get your parents to answer and tell him you're not home and that he has to stop calling.
Good luck

Well just tell him that he can't sleep over because everything between you two is done and even though you're friends, he can't go into the relationship with your new man.

Hit him where it counts.

That should do the trick.

As much as I wince at that, go for it.

^I've done that before. Countless times, actually. You know of my crude ways! But one of the funniest ones has to be when a boy I hardly knew was strangely obsessed and stalked me for 2 months last year. Some people just wouldn't have the guts to do something so cruel; but once I kicked him there and told him to back off, I think I kicked the confidence and strength out of him to retaliate. Since then, I've seen him twice this year, one time with Farhad; who simply glared at his face when I pointed him out. Oh, it was amusing. Poor boy doesn't even look at me anymore.

Ha.ha. ;]

My bf would kill him for even asking. How do you feel about it? think about it!!!!

My b/f hung out with him and his g/f yesterday (yes he has a g/f she took him back) So he thought he'd go away for today, but when me and my b/f were in the movies today my ex called. My b/f answered and told him that he hung out with him yesterday and to leave us alone. My ex said he was waiting for us at my house. When we got back to my house he was gone. But he called my b/f later and yelled at him and said that we ditched him. I think he's lost it.

He has lost it
Threaten him with a restraining order.

^^ good point.

If you're serious about getting him to leave you alone, stick with it!
Don't fold the next minute and hang out with him.
Sending mixed signals is confusing everyone!
(inc me) lol

I never hung out with him and I never intended to. My b/f did so that he could talk to my ex and get him to go away...(which didn't work) He figured if he hung out with him on the day that he did he would leave us both alone the next day (which was my b/f's b-day) and we could celebrate in peace because he had his fill...but it didn't work out like we planned, and my b/f just picked up the phone to tell him to go away. He did tell him to go away but it just doesn't sink in.

Okay, listen to what everyone in this board has already told you...

Change your numbers, and get a restraining order. Talk to your parents perhaps? Theres nothing we can do about this.

^ I know there is nothing you can do about this TPAM I just wanted some advice because I ran out of any for myself.

I think you should just change your number, like someone suggested. or tell his girlfriend that he wont leave you alone and ask her to tell him not to hang out with you, but not tell him that you were the one asking. and avoid him at all costs.