My BIg Sister Is Dying, Maybe It's My Time Too

My sisters might die of hpv. Her boyfriend gave it to her and now she's pregnant and it's really hard on everyone. My big sister is like my best-friend. i love her to death when i needed someone to talk to she was there and she listened and didn't say anything negative. I don't know how i'm going to live without her. The doctors say that she has about 8 months to live, the baby will live and she wont. Maybe i should just kill myself. My life is empty without her. i mean i do have other brothers and sisters but none of us connect like me and my sister Nicole do. I really am confused, anybody have any suggetions?

I'm not in a harsh mood so i'm not going to say anything mean. not that i normally do in these situations.

your parents will already feel excruciatingly unimaginably crappy, if they lose 2 daughters, not just 1, they'll feel 100 times worse. get your head straight before you make decisions like this. your sister loves you, and wouldn't want you to kill yourself for both her sake and your own. think of how much time you have left, she will still be watching down on you whether there in person or not she's always in your heart. so don't kill yourself, it's not rational, though it may seem so at the time, you'll eventually accept that god will take you when your time is right. as for now, deal with grief in healthy ways and don't contemplate suicide. it'd be horrible for everyone who gives a damn about you and you could pass up living some of the best moments in your life. getting married, having children, having a fun career etc.

They gave her 8 months to live? Was she diagnosed with cancer? Because being diagnosed with HPV alone is not a death sentence. HPV infection, which is usually asymptomatic, is also usually harmless. The vast majority of cases are transient: The body's immune system fights off the infection, which then either becomes inactive or resolves on its own.
Certain HPV strains lead to genital warts. These warts can be removed, but because the virus typically remains in the body, symptoms may reappear.
Other HPV strains are deemed "high-risk" because they occasionally develop into a persistent infection that can progress to cervical cancer if left untreated, usually over the course of decades.

"can that be a more selfish act, especially at a time like this?" <--I agree completely. your family have enough to worry about, knowing they are going to lose their daughter, how do you think they'd feel if they lost you both? and do you think your sister would want you to kill yourself? no, i didn't think so. you need to make the most of the time you have left with her and cherish it, not tar it with your selfish feelings of suicide. and when the time does come, yes it will hurt. you will feel like the pain alone will kill you. but it wont. time is a great healer. and i know sometimes time doesn't seem enough, but unfortunately thats all their is.

I agree with the other posts. Your parents will have a hard enough time with it, but to lose two of their daughters? Thats like if you lost your sister, and another close relative.

And the fact that the baby will live - well, you can take that good or bad. If the baby doesnt die, you can always have that reminder of your sister. It can be bad if it reminds you daily that she died. But if you dont dwell on the fact and remember the GOOD things about your sis (which i can tell there probably are), it can be a blessing.

I cant even imagine going through this, and my prayers are with you. As hard as it may seem though, its not worth giving up your life for it. Your time will come when its supposed to, and this isnt yours.

She was diagnosed with cancer in her uteris

Thats so awful. I cant imagine wht you must be going through. But still, you shouldnt kill yourself because of that...I know youre gonna be so sad and lonely without her, cuz she was like a best friend to you....but if you killed yourself..think about wht tht would do to your parents. Having one daughter die and then another kill herself. It wont solve anything, itll just create a bigger mess. Hang in there. Its gonna be hard but please dont die. Best of wishes to you.

...you know what, you're so right, kill yourself. That will solve everything...

Okay, I'm sorry about your sister. I know it will be hard, but one thing you have to do is stop making the issue about you. Saying you're going to kill yourself is selfish on your behalf!

Two, think about your niece and how you can let her know the truth about how great her mother was.

I've never even lost a grandparent so I have absolutly no idea what you're going through, but I'll try my best to give advice
You should make the last months you have with her the best of both your lives, don't take your anger out on anybody -especially yourself- your family is going through a really hard time right now so don't start cutting or something, that will make it worse.
People said killing yourself would be selfish, thats true but I kind of know what you're talking about, you feel like it's just to hard and that you're not ready to face the terror life is going to throw at you. There are a lot of people on here willing to talk and listen, and if thats not enough I know they've got programs for teens going through the same thing you are.
I really hope I help

Its will hopefully be okay. Good luck

*dont kill yourself over that just yet*
*give it time*

I think what you need to think about is what your sister would want. Would she want you to rip everyone who loves you and knows you apart more than her illness is already going to? Or would she want you to remember her and carry on the love she has shown you?

You're too young to just give your life away. Look at the life that taken from your sister's hands..she doesn't have a choice..you do. Life's too precious to just throw away like that.
Plus, I think your sister would want you out of anyone else in the world to raise her baby.
Keep her memory alive.

--Viola

PLEASE!!! Don't go killing yourself. That does not make anything better. That just hurts your loved ones more. I agree with Britt. Just spend the rest of your time with your sister and think positive! Have some faith she could make it threw it! There are miricals out there! Keep your head up okay! Think about how scared she has got to be! Comfort her okay!

PM me if you need to to talk! I am here almost everyday!
Love you *hugs* stay strong!
JayJ

If you go too, who is going to be left to tell her child all its mothers secrets and embarassing moments?? If it is her time then you have to realise what you have to do in life and how short and how something simple can destory you....

Maybe it is going to have a massive impact on you but what about the rest of your family? Imagine the grief of 2 losses at once. Please consider your options before jumping to a (easy get away).

Life is given to people who deserve a chance at life, when its a person's time to go then you have to decide how you choose to abide the rest of your time.

Be strong, be wise and take care please pm me of oyu want to talk again xxxxxxx

Cancer of the uterus... my aunt had it while pregnant with my cousin.
my counsin is not 7 and my aunt is cancer free [although she does have MS]
the gave her a historectemy and stuff and she cant have more kids, but shes alive. and her daughter is sooo beautiful!

She would want you to live, live on for her. Take care of her baby treat the baby as it was your own. If you two connect as much as you do you will connect with the baby. Your sister would want you to take care of her baby. And be with her for those last 8 months that means everything, do anything that you always wanted to do. Take a trip to Europe if you wanted to, do anything that will fufill those last months with her. Dont give up!

Turning to suicide as an answer to your problems is not the road you want to take, mate. Britt is completely right. If you are aware she only has so much time to live, why contemplate taking your own life when you could be spending time with her, taking her wants and needs before she goes into consideration. And the individual above me is also correct - take responsibility in hand and treat this expected child as if it were your own. Don't ever let it experience isolation and the lack of a mother. I can understand that you are in great pain, but it's time you stand up and face what we call 'the circle of life'.

Be strong, my friend.

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I'm so sorryyy!!!
Try to hold on hun. But killing urself in absolutely NOT the answer!!!!!!!
Be strong.
With Best wishes,
Kitten
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