My b/fs ex g/f

A couple months ago my boyfriend went and got drunk with his ex then stayed at her house, after we got into a fight. and it really hurt but we're still together...the problem is i havent gotten over it. i dont even know why i havent but he mentioned it today and it felt like i got punched in the stomach, i couldnt even breathe. i just dont know how to get over it, we talked about it alot too, to see if that would help. i want to stay with him because i really do love him!! but i dont know how we can stay together if i dont get over this. any advice on getting over it?

Yeah but i dont want to blow the two years we spent together on one mistake that he made =/

he said it wont happen again...but maybe im just being naive =/

You are.

You're young. You wont be with him forever, I can almost assure you. Let it go. He isnt worth it.

True...but geeze this is hard. its been so long since ive been without him. but i also think its right that i end it.

"All Over You" - The Spill Canvas.

Perfect lyrics for your situation.

I actually love that song =)

All hail the heartbreaker is a better song, lol

But to the problem at hand, how have things been since? Awkward? Better? Worse?

If a long talk didn't help and you feel that you really can't trust him, it is best that you finish it now before it gets to far.
If it were me, i wouldn't be able to finish it without some big big help so get your friends behind you and even suggest a break with your boyfriend for a few weeks to see how you both feel?
To me, what he did was an unforgiveable mistake, yet i also know that when you love someone, you forgive the craziest things.
So follow your heart.
Good luck
*Gem*

Before you end it... Listen to your heart but use your mind. If you're going to end it.. think first.. if you'll regret it... Look into the future... if it's okay for you that he's not there.

remember: 'Listen to your heart but use your mind'

Gah i'd kill him...

Thats the one thing I can never forgive no matter how much I love the guy. Sure he might feel bad about it but if he did it once then whats to say that the next time you two have a fight he won't do it again just because he doesn't want to be alone and shes willing to be there? If it's been a while and you still can't let it go and it's still hurting you then you need to ask yourself if being with him is worth the pain? No one can make your choice for you and if anyone did it wouldn't be right but, like many wise people above me have already said, follow your heart but listen to your head. The heart tells us to do the craziest things when we're in love so sometimes we need to block it out a little and listen to what our head tells us =P This isn't a easy choice and theres no way to make it easy, believe me, but think about the future not just right now and ask yourself if you can live with him or make it alone?

Good luck and I hope it all works out for you ^_^ Whatever choice you make will be the right one for you I'm sure ^_^
~*Rhea*~

Dont listen to dave... 2 wrongs dnt make a right!

well good luck with it!
and deff. dnt stay with him!!

Dave wasnt seriously saying do that.

He was saying, "Think about how he would react if you did what he did to you." And I agree with him.

IF he went to an ex's house whilst drunk then he obviously thought you'd forgive him and it'd blow over, stay with him and it'll happen again and again. Just take a step back and breathe, when you've come to a conclusion sit down and talk to him.

He's just going to do it again, cause he knows that he can get away with it. Give him the ax. Though I know it will be hard, but have some dignity! There are plenty of people out there, he's just not the one.

And for what you said about you don't wanna blow away 2 years or whatever... he's the one who blew it away. He's the one who made one of the worst mistakes someone can make.

Even if you do break up, and get back together later, it'll show him that he can't do that.

Break up with him for a month, see how you feel at the end of the month. Try to use your head a little bit more than following your heart at this point.

Your heart says love, while your gut says it's not right for you. You'll find love in someone else someday, remember that.