The age gap.

Hey, i just want some help here.
its my 1st thread. :s

well theres a 11/12 year age gap between me and my boyfriend. hes the best person in the world to me. and alot of people can see past the age. i love him to pieces.

problem: my dad doesn't no, and he won't be happy. any ideas on how to aproach it?

thanks guys. :]

Any imput?

Needa change that, i'm 18, which means i'm legally an adult over here. the bad part is my mum really likes this guy, i let her meet him, and shes helping me too keep it on the low, cause she can see my point.

but she says i should tell my dad, cause its not right to keep him in the dark.

have you any idea how i would tell him.

:s

I'm keeping mum out of it cause dad would be mad that she kept in from him. :[

thanks xxxx

Honestly, i believe that there is no age in love. love hits you from behind... it could be with an older person or younger. there are no rules in love!!
maybe try to explain that to your father and also have your mother be there with you for support.

just invite your b/f for dinner or something and after talk toy your father.

Britt-o has got it.

But how long have you and this mate been together?

anyway, Just sit down with your Dad alone one day and tell him.. "I'm an adult by now, and I can make my own decisions. I hope you can trust me with those decisions, because you are my father and you have seen me learn from my mistakes." Yada yada. Then tell him about it and explain why you kept it from him and apologize. If he loses it, tell him you understand why but you ARE an adult now, and you can make the choices that you want to make. You only hope that in time, he can come to accept those and make them as much apart of his life as your's.

Or something like that.

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well then try ro keep your mother of it.

Yeah, she has the right idea

It doesnt.

She still has a lot to learn, yeah. But she is 18 and can LEGALLY make her own decisons. Fathers begin to forget that. My step dad still treats me like a small child when I say, "I want to get this tattoo." or something. It's my decision, not his to make.

It may be a mistake later, but her father can only hope it isn't and let her make her own mistakes. You can't always hold your childs hand their whole life, and it is about time he lay off and let her choose.

"my dad doesn't no, and he won't be happy"

Maybe she hasnt. but she already stated.. he isn't going to be happy. My approach to it was reasonable. You give me a better approach, Britt.

You didnt give her a WAY to approach him, Britt-O. And that is what she asked for.

No, you're right. You're probably still your daddy's five year old little baby. But it is different in your eyes. So it may as well be in her's.

Sure thing, Daddy's Girl.

Still enjoy mine quite a bit more.
Combine the two, but leave the adult bit in if you see it fit. If you feel like one, tell him you do. But don;t say it defensively, be gentle with him. He's losing his dear, sweet little baby girl.

By the way.. You're an ass when someone challenges you, Britt. But I still like you.

Never said he wouldnt, that's why I threw in the mistakes bit. She is still a kid in a lot of ways. But if she feels one up on her daddy-oh and wants to say "I'm an adult" I'd say go for it.

By the way.. that was a sexist comment. This thread is about her DAD and he is a man. So of course, I am more apt to understand.

And my mother dislikes Amanda and Amanda's mother dislikes me. Sometimes it isn't always a plausable or even worth while dislike.

I have as much understand and experience with the situation as you do.

My father loathed every single one of my sister's boyfriends because they were simply males and he thoughts every one was out to harm his precious little girl. The age gap is big, I'll admit. But It'd be different if it was a 30 year old with a 13 year old.

Her father isn't going to take it well, no father will. But he might start to understand and give you some respect with the way that you approached him with respect and apologized for not informing him of the situation further.

But was the age gap 11 years with your Dad?

I'm not saying all do, Britt. Just most.

Four years. As opposed to eleven. Your father would have flipped his lid.

She's got to prepare herself for any reaction he may give.

Good luck though. I hope our advice helps.

If you were 14 and he was 25, I meant.

..and the original poster has left the building.

Nice work, guys! :]

This is actually really helping.

but don't get into a debate over it, yous have both got your own opinions.

:]

thank you alot :D

xoxoxoxoxoxox

Auk i love you guys. yous are getting so passionate about this problem.. :P lol

You know it, Britt. (: