Suffocated and confused.

Ok, so recently my boyfriend of 6 months moved about 45 minutes away, and i see him on weekends and i text/talk to him all day usually, but in the past week i've just felt like i needed a break from him. also i feel as if we are moving WAY too fast, and i feel suffocated and like i'm losing my chance to take advantage of life. also, as you may have seen in my other thread about him thinking i'm cheating, he's recently become ver untrusting and somewhat controlling. icouldnt see him this weeked because of family issues and he said that i 'always had an excuse', but thats not true, i saw him only last weekend! so because of all of this, i told him last night that we need a break, that i have too much going on[which is true] and that we moved too fast. and it sucked, because he started crying. now i'm so confused as to my feelings about him, i just want the old him back, before he changed, but at the same time, i'm scared because what if i can't find another person who is as crazy about me as my boyfriend is? i love him, just not this new version of him. i dont know what to do or even what is normal anymore. please help me.

Lol, im working on getting that book.
i just, feel...free, now that i did this, but then he called me up crying about it and i was like,
aw %&^*.

I dont KNOW if im done with everything.. thats the worst part. i mean, its not like im leaving him for another guy, no. i dont even want to date right now.i cant deal with that pressure.

Hmm..did you ever think that maybe YOU have changed as well? It is possible.

You say you see him only on weekends now since he's moved away. So there is that whole five days where I would suggest you do stuff for yourself like hang out with friends. You definitely need a life sepperate from him, and so does he. But you have to remember that he wants to feel secure that you still care for him as much as you did when he lived close. He wants to know that you haven't changed..in terms of your feelings for him especially. And most of all I think he's trying to keep you close because he doesn't want you to start looking at other guys. But who knows dear..maybe he's at fault too. Maybe you guys are meant to be together or maybe not. Only time will tell.

I don't like the idea of a break. I say it's either a break-up or stay together. I think that needing to go on a break is a sign that one, or both, people in the relationship are loosing interest.. and that relationship often ends up breaking. This ofcourse is not always the case. It's just in my regards needing a break is not a good sign.

Anyways, good luck with it all. I really don't have much advice to give you. Just my opinion or the way I see it.
Good luck! =]
--Viola

And so he keeps calling me constantly and he tried IMing me and i was signed on just not near the comp. and he started freaking out because he thought i was ignoring him and when i told him a 'break' meant tha i didnt want to talk to him every minute of the day, he got mad.

i always date the crazy ones.

Lol, yeah i know how you feel. try to talk to him and explain to him how youre feeling and whats going on. just tell him that you want to take a break form everything right now and that you need to get things sorted out before you guys get back into a relationship.

Wow.. hes being an ass... some girl imed me today and said she was '%^&*ing my man' and iw as like well hes not mine anymore.. so i called him and he was there with the girl and she was like naw im not messin with ur man honey i got my own and he was just being a dick and he was like well i cant control what she types... i mean its understandable that hes mad and hurt but i never INTENTIONALLY hurt him i just dont know... it seems like ever since he moved he's been slowly changing

Help anyone?

He's trying to harrass you and get under your skin, because you aren't crumpling under what he wants. That probably would be my guess for the prick bit.

Controlling, tempermental, stubborn. Those are general qualities in every person. But extreme amounts aren't healthy.

True.i think i'm going to just walk away, ubt i know its going to be so hard..i dont know how i'm going to do it, it's like i want to walk away until he changes and then go back, i dont want to lose him completely.

But ohw do you walk away from someone who you've shared so much with... who means so much to you... someone who everytime you turn around you think of them... how do you just throw away that part of your life..

This is a tough one but all i can really say is if your heart feels like you can i dont kindof do better...then maybe you should let him know. Because i mean if he is starting to change because of the distance thats just not something you would want in a relationship so you should talk to him and be honest with him because everyone appreciates honesty when it comes to these situations...so yea good luck

I cant help it.. i have to give it another chance. i know im making the wrong decision probably, and itll hurt more later, but i have to.

Are YOU happy?

So we got back together, but as i said in a different post, it's not working. it's dead, there's nothing i can do to save it. i'll miss him, but i know what we have isn't love anymore, if it ever really was, which i think it was at one point. no, im not happy, and i deserve to be. britt was right- im fed up.