What do you do...

What do you do when the doctors tell you that your dads brain tumors havn't shrunk and he has only one option left, and that he will most likely die withn 6 to 8 months? I am deeply confused right now. I feel selfish becuawse the only thing that is going through my head right now is, 8 months isn't even my britday, 6 months isn't even the end of school. he will never see me graduate or get married or see his grandchildren. Never have another Christmas or thanksgiving or halloween or new years (my parents anniversary) nothing......im not quite sure how to deal with this.

You aren't being selfish, he's probably thinking about all the stuff he'll miss out on seeing you do as well. the best thing you can do is make his time here as good as possible, and make sure to keep remembering that God is taking him to a better place. The only thing you can do is give him support and let him know how much you love him.
x

Thank you very much.

If you're going to go, go out smiling.

Enjoy the time you have so you can look back and cherish the trial rather than look back and regret it.

I have a really good friend who has been fighting this off and on for years. Recently he went into the hospital with the doctors declaring that he would never walk out of the doors again. I took it hard. But while i was there with him, he told me that 'God only throws at you, what he knows you can handle. He only give you, what he knows will make you stronger.' My friend 'did' indeed walk out of them doors. But he never walked back in. He is as healthy as a horse right now and is doing great! God wasn't ready for him to come 'home'... but his time will come eventually. As will yours and your dads. If God is ready for you Dad, let him go, he will be much happier there and he will still get to see you grow up... it may not be from the front row of the audience or walking you down the aisle, but from above. And he will be guiding you through life, as your guardian angle. I know this is hard for you... as it was for me... but you 'will' get through this... i guess my advice for you is make sure you live everyday as your last, tell the ones you love, how much they mean to you, because you may never get to tell them again.... i hope that this was of help! and if you ever need someone to talk to, just PM me.. i'll be here to listen if you need to talk, give advice if you need... anytime

"What do you do when the doctors tell you that your dads brain tumors havn't shrunk and he has only one option left, and that he will most likely die withn 6 to 8 months?"

You buy him ice cream.
Actually, I'm being serious. Spend as much time as you can with him. Make this count. Andf you aren't selfish. Death is selfish. You're just trying tocope.

Spend time with him. As much in those six months that you can.

Oh dear sweets, you've got me in tears here because i was in the same situation as you with my nan and i know how much this is hurting.
You're thinking about all this things because thats what you're going to miss. All the little things that we all normally take for granted.
My advice to you is the same as TPAM, spend all the time you can spare with him and make it count. Do all the things you've always wanted with him and never let a day go by when you don't tell him how much you love him.
No matter what you will always have regrets about things you can't do or won't get to do so cram as much as you can in now.
My thoughts are with you sweets
*Gem*

Nothin' to do. Just sit and wait. Hope for the best, prepare for the worst.

First of all, your pretty effing brave and i admire you so much for what your going through. its not selfish at all. i cant say enough about that. not to mention your dad's position as well.
omg lol quick story. i was just talking to my friend and she was complaining about her grades and after she didnt take my first line of advice, the next thing i sad was at least your dad hasent been diagnosed with terminal brain cancer. that shut her up really fast.
ok so i have no idea what advice i would give you because ill bet id be no better off in your situation than you are. so i asked my own daddy to see what he says...he says love your daddy each day =)

one more thing. you seem like a really sweet and intelligent girl, bianca. im sure thats more than enough for your daddy. ill bet that youve already made him proud enough to last the time he wont be around...oh yeah that reminds me. one thing most people dont know until they really lose someone is that you never really lost them. you will never lose your daddy. he will always be with you no matter where you go. love is always the strongest when you cant be.
come to think of it, he dosent have to be alive to see you grow up and be proud of you. hell be at your every birthday, graduation, christmas, and wedding you'll ever see. =)
your in my prayers.

First :thank you so much Gem, Erika and Prophecies In Kodak. Those words touched me.

Well my mom checked into Cancer treatment services of america, and they can do nothing to help. We are researching all our options as best we can, and hopefully we can find -somthing- out there.

The past few days have been hard, but i have to say that I am happy that everyone who hsa posted in here, has made me feel so much better, you can never know. So thank you all so much.

-bianca

I thought about you all day! I LOVE YOU...whenever i get really upset about something, i think about you and it makes my problem seem smaller and the world seem bigger. your helping me too =)
...I...LOVE...YOU
even though i probably cant be much of a help, i hope it helps just to say that im here if you wanna talk or something or cookies...
oh oh i HAVE to tell you something. check your messages ok?
hugs

If you ever need to talk, we're here sweets.
Stay strong.

Erica Gem, i would probably have to say that you are some of the most careing people i have met in a long time. Its nice that even though my "friends" aren't there to care, you 2 are. you guys make my day better. thank you.
-Bianca

I'm pulling for your dad, love. I'll pray. And if you need anything, as Gem said, we're here. Chin Up.

Thanks! u guys are gerat.