Controlling mom.

So i don't even kno where to start...except that my mom drives me insane.there are days i just have to leave and it takes everything i have to come back.i kno she'd be a total wreck w/o me...but at the same time she tells me to get out of her house.
my dad left us when i was really little & my brother recently left for the army.so shes totally freaking out cuz she thinks i'm gonna leave her and the world will end.how do i tell her that i need space without sounding like a bitch?
i've tried everything,and now i've got a counselor cuz i need someone to work this out between us.my mom feels like she needs to control me,like taking my phone and changing my account password on the computer.the only way she doesn't figure it out is if i put it in spanish.
i have a boyfriend who lives an hour away so i sometimes go spend the night at his house. but lately shes been making up weird excuses so i don't leave.i can't stand it,how do i manage my family and my friends?
sometimes i just wish she'd leave me alone...but i don't kno how to talk to her without seeming like i want her to get out of my life forever.i just need some space for awhile..plz help.

Just tell her, "Look mom I love you, I'm not going anywhere, but your behaviour is pushing me away. I just need space, not space as in I'm leaving, space as in time for myself and my friends. I know things have been hard, they have been hard for me too. I'm not trying to hurt your feelings, I just thought we should talk."

It is amazing how strong the panic is, when you feel like everyone in your life is leaving. You try everything to hold onto anything, it can become quite irrational. I hope it all works out for you.

I think you should just tell her you need space. Even if she flips, so what. She also needs to respect your privacy. You are growing up and becoming your own women. You need to make sure she understands you'll always be there for her, but you need to live your life.

Sounds sort a lot like my mother... Sadly im 19 now,almost 20,and I cant stand it,I burst out in a violent rage and we fight and argue,i'll just get up and go for a walk,i dont bother telling her what time because she knows i'll be smart and be home early,sadly i've tryed to express how i feel,but im so afraid of my own mother,in the past i made her so mad she punched the fridge instead of me... anyways,i hope things get better for you. best of luck (if you reply to this post pls forward to my mail i wont be back to this forum)

My mom is the same way what I think you should do is try to reason with her thats the best way because if you don't tell her she might think that you don't mind so she's going to continue to control which i don't believe so just try to reason with and if you do talk to her about it
don't let you angry talk for you because then it's just going to get ugly so just take a deep breath and maybe a few get your thoughts together and kindly but in a adult manner tell what she's doing to you..ok!! =)

Im not being mean but i hate mothers like that. Its your life not hers and she shouldnt be controlling u like that your password is your own buisness not hers. She may think it would be the end of the world without u but everything is not about her u have a life of your own and she shouldnt be making your decisions. I would try and reason this with her by taking the both of u's to a counciler and if she doesnt want to reason then shes not much of a mum is she. i hope this helps

Cheers