Very Weird

I Don't come on here much anymore, but tonight i was reading through all the posts...and all i can say is i find it weird that that the threads that seem to get the most posts on them, are the ones where people are just fighting and hurling abuse at each other, the people who are in real need of some help and support hardly get any posts at all! Shouldnt they be the people who get the most posts?

I know lots of people seem to hav had major major disagreements n fallouts, but you're all ignoring the people who actually want someone to talk to and who need help! Isn't that what this section is meant to be about? Getting help?

I'm not calling anyone directly an attention-seeker, but iv seen quite a few of these especially on this site...and posting to them, even if its jus in arguemtns with them or whatever, just gives them what they want...attention. Can't anyone else see this?

Also, i realise ther r people who say they want to die just for attention etc, but some of these ppl who say they are suicidal should be taken seriously...anyone who talks about this needs some help, whetehr they are attention seeking or not, we shudnt keep judging whether they are actually going to do it or not either. Again i realise ther r ppl who simply say they want to die, just to get posts, but its pretty obvious who the ppl are who need real help and the others who are just seeking posts.

I'm sorry if this has offended anyone, but i really thought it needed to be said, because the people who are in real need of help aren't getting much of it at all.

Toni xx

I Agree Toni, there are may be some people who do that, but there are wuite a few people who do come on here looking for help from others.

either way
Anyone who comes on here looking for herlp
we should help them
Oli xxx

Yeah what you are saying is true so here's an opening for you to change the world.
Hmm maybe not but you can help the people who do need help.

I have seen way too many people who come here with false pretenses about seeking help.

Hey, well, I've been trying to get ahold of you both, lol. Toni, you are very right and hopefully people will listen 2 ur words. I'm not going to be hypocritical by saying that I haven't been participating because some of the things on here do make me very angry, but I don't like that about me. Can I get quick advice real fast? I really need this fast because I am very guilty right now.

My parents are getting a divorce over me. I mean, my mom and my step-dad r getting a divorce over me. My mom has already divorced b4 bcuz of me, and now she's doing it again. It's more of the men's problems with me. They say I'm a devil, I'm out of line, out of order, and out of my place. They really do wish me dead, and I know that. Well, this time, my step-dad's parents REALLY hate me and kicked me out of their home over the summer bcuz I was constantly crying. I'm not welcome at their home, so I don't want them welcome at mine, but I don't say a word. I treat them rele well and with lots of love. They spent x-mas with us and I told them I love them and made them cards. They had nothing to complain about. This week, I've been at my grandma's and today, they decided to complain to my mom about me. Now, my parentals r geting a divorce and I'm going to have to raise my baby brother alone because my mom will have to work 24/7 to get money. We're extremely poor without him. So, everything is my fault, though I did nothing. I'm rele hurt by this, and I cud rele use some help, fast!

Please!

HeartBrokenSisi-thats my Aim, ironically.

~Sierra

Hi Sierra, sorry for the delay in replying, have only just got access to the computer

That situation with your parents sounds tricky....are you really sure they are divorcing only because of you?? It sounds pretty extreme that they would divorce just because of you? Are you sure they havnt got other problems between them, and are just taking their anger+frustration out on you? Maybe you're relli blaming yourself too much?

Altho if you relli think uv played a part in their divorce...it dusnt sound like u behave badly at home at all? or is there any way in which u act at home that relli pisses them off?
Maybe they don't understand about depression, cos its amazin how many people dont, and they just take it that your behaving badly, a devil etc, when your not, you're just suffering with a horrible depressive illness!! That's if you do suffer from depression??

I think the way ur step dads parents behaved is way out of line, especially for kicking you out, and that must have been horrible for you, i really cant imagine.

Although its probably the last thing you want to do right now..i think you should have a talk with your mum, just you two. and ask her about the divorce etc, and why you get the blame/shouted at for so many things? If you possibly can, try not to get all angry when ur doing it, because parents tend to just shut off then. I really doubt its your fault Sierra, try not to plague urself with all this guilt until you've spoken to your mum.

Or if you really really can't talk to your mum is there anyone else in the family that knows the situation, that you could explain things to?

If it does turn out that they r divorcing because of you..wich i think is relli relli unlikely...then all i can say is that they can't have had that greater relationship, to divorce over something so small....so it is really NOT your fault hun!

Keep posting to let me know how your getting on, i'll try and help in any way that i can

xxxxx

Hey, it's been a while and I'm just wondering if you have come to this site anymore, Toni? Everything at home is still dramatic and it completely sucks without internet!!, but I'm hanging in there. Surprisingly, my own Mom was yelling at me last night and telling me that the reason that they are getting in this huge mess is because of me and my depression. Yah, she actually said that in the car on the way to my friend's house. My eyes were watering, but she still doesn't know that I was on the edge of tears. Oh well, Life is too dramatic.

~Sierra