Broken Family

I jus dumped my boyfriend of 2 yrs and we have a daughter who is 15 months old. i dumped him cause he treats me like crap and all he wants is weed. i feel horible for breakin up the family. but im tired of being hurt. i dont want our daughter hurt either. he had chances to change but screwd up all the time... should i feel bad? im really confused. i dont want to hurt anyone, but i feel its best

No you shouldn't feel bad. he's not only breaking the law he's destroying himself. know what child services would do if it was found out he was smoking weed? they'd take her out. you have a daughter to care for. you did the right thing.

Aw sweetie, of course it hurts. but just remember that what he is doing is wrong. i'm very very glad that you got out of that relationship, because i'm sure that was hard. but you are doing what is best for both you and your child.

I agree with Brit: it wasn't your fault if anything it was him.

he knew what he was doing and what the results might be and yet he still choosed the weed over his family.

take care of your little girl and do what you think is best for her and you, don't pay attention to anybody else except your little angel!!

Hi. did you tell him how you feel? communication is the building stone of relationships. but on the other hand he is a dad, he needs to be responsible!!!! not smoking weed.

You're doing what you feel is best for your daughter and yourself. So no, you shouldn't feel bad. But you're very apt to feel that way anyway.
Weed was his decision, and it doesn't exactly tear families apart. Maybe it has your's but not usually.

If he treats you poorly you are doing what you have to do to make things better for your daughter and yourself. You shouldn't raise a child in a negative enviroment and expect healthy results. Not usually, anyway. Atleast some mental damage is done. If he was quick to treat you that way, he may your child. And you're doing what you feel is best for both of you. Nothing wrong with that.

If later on he changes, and it sticks. You can make the decision if it's wrong or right. But if he continues to discard the changes you have offered him and chances you have given him, a child is the very last thing he needs.

Of course you are going to feel bad, I had to do the same things months ago, his problem was coke, crack and E though. We were together for 10 years and have an 8 yr old daughter. No matter how bad it made me feel I had to do what was right for her and kick him out. When you have children, they come before anything else.

See last night i was talkin to him on the phone and he had my daughter for a month cause she was sick and he lives closer the the docters cause i moved to west virginia. well he was so screwd up on weed or sumthin he couldnt even understand what i was talkin bout. now im goin to get her tomorro and hes all mad cause thanxsgivin. but i dont want her hurt.. its like i outtin muh baby in the middle. i know im doing something wrong. but what

If he can't stay straight while taking care of his child, he should not have her.

Anyone else have nemore advice?

You daughter shoudl come first.
he didnt put her first.
hell, he didnt even put you first.
he put drugs first.

I think you made a wise decision and I'm proud of you for making that decision. Too many women who have kids with bad boyfriends decide to "stick it out" because he's the biological father but if he's not being a dad then he's not worth it.

My co-worker had a baby when she was 19 and the biological father went in and out of prison. She knew that he wasn't the right guy so she let him go. Now she has two kids and has been in a relationship with a GOOD man for seven years. Seeing them as a family is so beautiful and the first daughter even considers the new man her real father. That is love and committment, so wait for the right one. Good for you for not hanging on to someone undeserving.

^^ I agree with the above post.

You should not feel bad. That guy should be the one to feel bad. Now you just have to concentrate on bringing up your daughter well.

Get the guy out of your mind.