Should I have left? (girls please help!!)

(please read, i know it's long, but i appreciate it.)

Basically the cliff notes version is as follows:

My g/f of a year and 1 month and i broke up a few days ago because i felt that she didn't love me anymore. She sat there and told me she felt nothing. Then not even 3 mins after i left her house she was trying to call me and text message me. I was crying and i basically ignored it till i got home. After i got home we talked, met the next day, talked some more and worked it out. She told me she might have feelings for another guy who lives in another state.

She then told me when she came to my house begging me to take her back that she loved me and was no longer confused about her feelings and she loved me and wanted to be with me.

2 days later now, she has another dream about cheating on me with this guy. She then tells me today that while she is up at her second house in the state he lives in they are going to hang out. She called him today and confessed everything she felt towards him. She told me there was no guarantee she wouldn't hook up with him while they were up there. So I told her I couldn't do it. She got upset and hung up the phone. She said she was going to come by my work tomorrow to talk to me. Was I right in breaking it off? Or should I talk to her? and if i talk to her what should i say? Do all girls get urges like this and act on it the way she did?

Thanks for taking the time to read this.

You were right to break it off with her because it sounds like that SHE can't get her feelings sorted out right.

You were only going to get hurt more, it was only a matter of time. you saved your self a lot of heartache. deep down I think that you knew that it wasn't meant to be, beacuse if it was then she would have forgotten the other guy.

move on and find someone that loves you the way you love them. Good Luck!!

Agree with Britt ^^

She is toying with you, you were more than right to break it off. Let her play with someone else. Don't let her hang onto you just because she needs something safe to hang onto. She made a choice, now she must live with it, find someone who appreciates you.

I agree with everyone else. You're probably vulnerable right now, and if you'll see her at your work, it might take the best of you. She'll probably say some bs about how shes changed and how shes not confused anymore.

If I were you I'd call and tell her that your done and you don't want to see her anymore.

Haha gotta agree with britt all the way...especially the "Oh puh LEASE" part ;D

but seriously... don't even give your choice a second thought!

I think u are doing the right thing. break it off. cause if she even cared bout u enough she wouldnt b platying mind games with u. thats all she was doing. was basically showing u shes in control and you will b with her no matter what.. my ex boyfriend did something like this to me. but i dont think talkin to this chick would do anything. she will see where she messed up.

You definatly did the right thing... if she cant get her feelings straight and is basically telling you that she may or may not basicly cheat on you with some guy in another state then she is just messing with your feelings... she needs to get herself straight and if you keep taking her back that lets her know what she is doing to you is ok and telling you that she doesnt have feelings for you, then crying back to you is NOT ok... also what is NOT ok is her cheating... or putting herself in a situation where she may...

Yes you did, your heart is obviously out there and this girl doesn't care whether or not she's trashing it. She clearly doesn't know what she wants and you shouldn't get in hurt in the process.

Good luck with the situation, I hope you decide to find someone more deserving of your affection and attention.

You were absolutley 100% right in breaking it off with that girl. if she was in 'love' with you, she wouldn't have urges to hook up with other guys. It is wrong for a girl to 'play' people like that. even though you may still love her, you arent' getting anything in return. I would just let that girl go, i'm not saying "NO! NEVER TALK TO HER AGAIN!" i am saying that if she has another guy.. now you aren't standing in her way. thats what she wanted anyway. I'm sure that sooner or later, she will come crying back to you and want you back saying "i made a mistake and i love you/want you back" ect. ect. but if she admitted having no feelings for you.. what would make them come back? just keep in mind what is best for the both of you.. you have a life to live to. i wish you all the luck! and stay strong, you will find someone that is as great as you and is willing to commit 100% as you are..

I agree you did do the right thing...

She sounds like trouble if she's changing her mind so much in such a short amount of time. You were right to break it off. She needs to sort out her feelings before she decides what to do. If she really cared that much she wouldn't even consider getting with someone else that fast.

You DID do the right thing...be strong! =D

Thanks for all the comments and help. it hurts, she's calling me all the time but i'm standing my ground. It's just hard, after putting that much effort in and getting nothing but hurt out of it in the end. not the first time this has been done to me but i put myself really out there this time. oh well, life goes on. thanks again everyone.