Do I realy want him back?

Ok. Long story short. I think I found the love of my life this summer. But he made a huge mistake adn cheated on me. After I broke up with him, he was still going out with her. Then she broke up with him, making him even more depressed. Then he found another girl, but then they decided it was better to be friends. Now, he's begging me to take him back! He told me over the phone that he never liked or loved them, and that he threw away the best thing that's happened to him, when he cheated on me. And he also told me that he'll love me forever!
Can I trust him and take him back? Or do I take him back when I'm ready to date again?
HELP!!!

Do you really believe in him when he told you "he threw away the best thing that's happened to him, when he cheated on me. "

Everyone deserves a second chance. But don't just go back with him... Give him like a test to see if HE really likes/loves you. If he can't do that then don't come back to him.

A test for example... Make him wait.

Oh yeah don't believe guys who tell you "I'll love you forever" (Guys are good at making you believe in that thing.)
*Not all guys okay.*

"Forever means until someone gives up." < I read it somewhere.

Put him through the test..... make him want you and make him wait.

If he really loves you like he says he does then he will wait for you and then you can finally say that he does.

But I will also watch out for the cheating thing because some guys can't let that go

Trust is a major issue in many relationships, especially after something like that happens . Can you really trust him after he cheated on you and left you like that ? He left the best thing that ever happened to him for something that probably meant nothing to the girl he went for, can you trust that he won`t do it again ?

There`s a quote I once heard and fell in love with: "Never leave the one you love for the one you like, because the one you like will leave you for the one they love." So if he really loved you, would he have really done that to you, <especially> if he claims to have never had any feelings at all for the other girls .

For now, I would suggest you don`t date until you are ready . And if it was me in that situation, I wouldn`t even go back to him . I do believe in second chances, but also, you could look at this as a sign; it`s an experience you can use to grow in finding the right one for you . It`s better he hurt you sooner than later, but is he worth the possibility of a worse pain if he does this to you again ? That should be the question you have to answer before you go back to him .

Learn this lesson now. Everyone else either dumped him or decided he was not worthy. He cheated and now that he has no further prospects, he misses you, loves you and realizes that you were the best thing that ever happened to him. Never knowingly choose to be second, third or fourth best.

Hes a liar! my ex did the same to me and it took me forever to realize that he didnt love me....if sum one cheats on u they dont rele care bout u....no matter wat u want to think they can say srry a million and one times dont make it true!!! im srry but i mean i just think u should let him go!

I wouldn't take him back if I were you. Sounds like a loser.

Well if i were u i would make him prove his facts.

wait a while.. dont jus date him again real fast cause it would make him think he can do this to u again and come right back into ur life..

my ex did this to me till i dumped him 3 wks ago. n im done. i even have a daughter with the boi..

but if he rlly loves u, he will come back, but prove to u he means it.. but dont let me fool u..

where theres smoke theres fire.. so if u take him back, watch him close...

I agree with what Jenna said, although a bit more bias to the 'don't go back to him' side. Really unbelievable that he has done this. If you get with him and later on you start to feel real love and attachment your insecurities will eat at you, trust me....

I believe staying away maybe then when he gets another girl he will do the right thing first hand without hurting anyone....

He needs to learn..

xxx Alex xxxx

Thank you for all the answers!!!
that helps me alot!
but what doesn't help me, is that he still cries for me over the phone, and he tried to kill himself almost 3 times...sometimes i wonder if i should give up guys cuz they're all confusing and some of them are real pigs.

^^ I`ve felt the same, just give up because most guys are pigs, however, what would that prove ? It would just show how weak you are . Giving up is easy, love takes courage . . . so show how courageous you are .

Maybe just let him know that you are there for him as a friend but nothing more than that . When he sees that it will go nowhere but a friendship he will give up his threats .

LOL, cmon, you`re going to sit there and tell me that guys aren`t pigs as well ?

Haha I agree on Britt :P there are also some girls that are 'pigs'

Well of course girls can be too, but being a girl, I notice it more in men because all of the ones I meet somehow turn into "pigs" lol .

Ack . Both sexes are equal on it here, but I still wouldn`t take him back .

I wouldn't call females "pigs." Men, yes. Females are more like two-faced, backstabbing, sneaky little-- you get the idea (:

Anyhoww , to the poster,
The whole "he threw away the best thing that's ever blah blah blah blah blah" thing maybe could've worked if he cheated on you, DUMPED the other girl immediately after, and chased after you and never thinking about anyone BUT you. Though, in this case, since he stayed with her, SHE broke up with HiM, and he found ANOTHER girl after? Pshhh', he's just using you as a last resort.

..__MiNDYY

I agree with Mindy ^_^

"He's just using you as a last resort."
It happened to me so believe in what Mindy said.

Yea, I agree that he's using me as a last resort.
But I'm now with him again!
I couldn't get on in weeks, cuz the page was being stupid...
And he's trying sooo hard to make everything perfect again, and I give him credit for that. But I don't trust him as much as I used to. That's the only thing that's gone right now, is the trust I had in him.