OMG I can't believe what just happened lols

*deep breath* K...for those of you who know me, you'll know that I met a man on here 7 and 1/2 months ago and we've been dating for a while now well..........he just asked me to merry him!!!

I can't really believe it myself but he just did lols K, he can't give me a ring yet so it's just an understanding between us right now and he's going to write to my mom tomorrow and break the news to her but other then that we're not going to call eachother anything other then boyfriend/girlfriend but I'm just so nervous, shocked *that I actually did this* I mean I knew that it was coming just I wasn't expecting it for a long while lols And actually scared but can't stop grinning and I'm so happy lols He wants to do the whole asking me in person thing after I'm legally of age, which is in April but I just had to say it to someone lols I mean say what just happened lols His family loves me and his sister already calls me her sis-in-law and his mom loves me, my mom and little brother love him so I guess I'll make it through this but we come from completely different cultures also so I'm having to figure this all out =P Other then that and the fact that their a really smart, wealthy family and I'm clearly not from that walk of life we're perfect for eachother lols Hopefully it works out the way we pray it will lols

K, I just had to make a post and tell someone lols

Lols thank you :D It is really exciting as well as scarier then I can explain lols I hope we will be even happier then we are already *don't know how that would be possible though lols* At least we share a passion for poetry so he doesn't bother me about it lols Thats wonderful about your boyfriend too :D

hehehe My head is still reeling lols

Lols Thanks Jess *takes your hands and dances around with you* lols I'm not saying that I know everything about him or even that he's who he says he is but all I have is faith and, as Jess can tell you I'm sure, thats the most important thing in a LDR, faith, trust and being strong enough to handle being alone all the time and having people hassle you about your choices lols

In my case though it's not just him and me talking, he's talked to my mom a few times online, I've talked to his mom quite a bit, his older sister, one of his many cousins and I've talked to him on the phone twice *yes, I can tell you which days he called and how long we talked too lols*

Online dating is something thats not for everyone and is a choice that each person has to make on their own. I know that I never thought that I'd be in one because I'll admit it, I used to think that it was stupid and that people that choose to date online just needed a life but...hehehe then I meet my boyfriend and...it just kinda happened lols Didn't plan it or even want it but you can't choose who you lose your heart to or when, which I actually think is a good thing lols But yes Jess, I've heard all of it a lot lols But I also understand that their only concerned because they care for me and my safety, heck my own sister is freaking out on me because I don't know him in person lols Like I've said though, knowing a person in person doesn't mean that your safe from being raped, killed, hurt or having your heart broken. Personally I trust my Teddybear *hehehe my boyfriend* more then I trust most of the men around me that I do know lols To each their own though, as for me this is the path I've chosen and I've never been so happy =) I think that if we can make it through the distance and meeting eachother then we'll have a happy life together full of the love that keeps us going :D

Congrats!!!!!

Please, please, PLEASE meet this guy. Meet him with adult chaparones, in a place you know well. But MEET him, before you move into a serious engagement (or relationship?). You say yourself that you really have no proof that he is who he says he is. I know it's easy to get caught up in the romance of the moment, and it's very flattering and all, but try to keep your head about this. Speaking from experience, it can be really hard to translate a long distance relationship into "the real world." (At least, that's assuming that you're not planning on an on-line marriage... sheesh.) It's hard even when you met the person and got to know them -before- it became long distance. If what you two have is real, and will last... it's not going to suffer at all by waiting a little bit, until you've actually spoken face to face, at least. Not to mention maybe you'd want to try kissing or something. Physical aspects of a relationship obviously aren't everything, but they are more important that the more highly quixotic might give them credit for.

Meet. See if you still feel the same. THEN proceed.

Thank you ^^ I understand what your saying and appreciate the concern =) I don't know if thats what he's planning on but thats what I'm planning on doing, meeting him *he wants to come to where I live so he can meet my family and all that* and then seeing how it goes after that and how it goes actually having him around lols We have our issues already so believe me I know the transition into a face-to-face relationship is going to a little rough *despite what he might think lols* Thats why I said that it's more an understanding right now, because he knows I want to meet first and get used to that and actually get to know him before it becomes official. My sis was in a bad online relationship where the man turned out to be really bad and a men that she actually knew, I almost lost her so I'm being as safe as I can be ^_^ I do have ways of checking to see if he's actually who he says he is but he hasn't given me a reason to doubt it yet so I'm just keeping it open lols Thank you again for your concern =)

Oh and Britt, I'm only underaged for 4 more months so thats why we're being even more careful lols He's quite a few years older so thats other reason why we're still going by boyfriend/girlfriend lols

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Yes, their fine with it, or at least the ones that I talk to about my relationships lols He's 23 so only about 5 and 1/2 years older then me, thats not that bad. But yes, my mom has talked to him online a few times and next time he calls I'm thinking I'll have them talk but she adores him and so does my little brother and my sis is coming around lols

Oh thats so great!
congrats

Angelina, I understand you don't like this but I'm happy and love can happen anywhere. Sometimes this kind of relationship works and sometimes it doesn't, mine...I'm yet to see lols This may not be the most romantic way for this to happen but he's a great guy so I'm happy for myself that he wants to be with me that much instead of how my ex's were, so yes it is romantic lols

And thank you Samantha :D I think it's great too *when I'm not scared to death about how big this is lols* Thank you =)

Best Of luck! =D

Congrats!!!

Thanks Amber and Tiffany :D Means a lot lols

Wait...have you met this guy? How old is he?

I actually feel kind of sorry for you. It's almost always a mistake to marry young.

You haven't even met the guy yet... Why do young people always insist on jumping the gun, and marrying so young? What's the rush? Just enjoy the love you have, there's no reason to take a running leap to that next HUGE level.

But whatever, your life, I won't press my opinion any further.

Thank you for saying that actually kori, I actually agree with you *weird as that is* and no matter what he thinks I'm not planning on jumping right into it ^_^ I'm almost 18, I know that in the long run thats really very young and theres a lot that I don't know so even if I agreed I do think it would be best to wait like you said. He's in school so I want to wait till after he's done with that before we take it farther just because a lot can happen and change when your there. I'm not sure how many more years he has but also if we do happen to get married then what happens if I get pregnant? lols It's things like this that make me plan on waiting so no worries there. People do seem to be getting married really young and I personally don't think it's wise *which again is the reason why I've told him even if we choose to make this really official I want to wait a while* and I'm well aware that this is a HUGE step, freaks me out sometimes actually lols.

And he's 23 *5 and 1/2 years older then me* and yes, my mom is fine with it lols

You have never meet this person? that is crazy. you need to meet this person. matter of fact please sont meet this person. the computer world is crazy anybody could make themselves be something they are not. you are very crazy for online dating. those things hardly ever work out. then to top it off he asked you to marry him and you guys never met. seems a lil fishy to me. seems like he has some problems he needs to solve. but if u thik its right then hey congrats!

Thank you Amanda :) I actually realized that it had never come up how much longer he has so i made a point of asking him last night lols When we're talking we get distracted and tend to forget that we haven't mentioned something lols he has about 4 more years so...thats a long time lols But I don't see the point in rushing into anything like this either, I asked him why the rush since I'm not planning on going anywhere with or without any promises or understandings and he just said that he knows he loves me, he trusts me and I'm the one that he wants to be with lols In the last 7 months since we met on here we've both been through a lot and helped eachother through most of it, I'm willing to take a chance and see where this takes me, if it leads to a broken heart or me getting hurt in anyway then I'll pick myself up the best I can and dust myself off lols I'm realizing just how many things i don't know about him that I want to but also theres a lot of stuff he doesn't know about me, in order to expect him to share then I have to get to the point where I'm willing to also =P But thank you, what you said was helpful and rather encouraging actually :)

I am not going to comment on this thread.

Awee congrats!!! That's so exciting!

Aww thats really nice

Erm..congrats O.o

I was in a LDR/internet relationship for around 10 months.... meet him. just, please. meet him NOW. safely.

I'm not saying what your doing is wrong.
and I'm not saying its right.
But I would seriously meet this guy.
and if it turns out that he's exactly who he says he is, and everything. he's not lying to you.
Then I will apoloize to you.

I just think you should meet him before you even try a relationship with him.
I have no disrespect for your decision, But for all you know he can be a 45 year old petafile.

You really don't know.
But if you choose to meet him, take everyone elses advice to.
and Meet him in a public place, with adults around.

Better to be safe than sorry.

For the love of god meet the guy before you do anything. Trust me,you never know.

*hugs you all* Thank you for all your concern, it means a lot and I'm not going to go on about "it may have happened hundreds of times but it won't happen to me" bull because I'm well aware that it can happen and yes, there is a huge chance that he's lying to me, I know that very well but I've known him 8 months now, been dating about 3 of those months lols We have a pretty open relationship were we discuss all our problems that we come across in the relationship, but I am being careful so no worries there. I have a strong self-defense that tells me when somethings not right and so far...I can tell he's been pretty honest and straight forward with me. Like I've said though, I view this as kinda a promise ring type agreement lols He wants to come up here and meet me and my family, we'll see how that goes and what we actually feel for eachother in person and then decide what to do from there :)

I know that chances are I can get really hurt here but what is life if you don't take a few chances and risk your heart sometimes?

Lols u say Lols alot lols

but good luck with watever happens
everyone just wants to make sure he doesnt hurt you or u get hurt
but i agree with taking it a bit slower and get to know him, heck even meet him, before all of that.
i wouldnt marry someone Ive never met in person. u might not even like him in person.
but gd luck nonetheless
xx

Congrats on the engagement but, please wait until you become of age. You never know what some people might do to someone like you. You're only seventeen! Don't throw your life away! Think about it. Just a warning!

All that i can say is .. this is quite the stupid idea. no offense. i mean.. how can you really LOVE him and get engaged when you have no idea what his real personality is like? phone/internet won't bring out his true colours no matter how well you think you know him. i show some of myself on the internet.. to the extent you can see a personality in someone.. but i'm still a lot different in real life sometimes. you don't know this guy, you haven't met him, talking to his mum online.. might still be him, and you're happy .. lols.. about an engagement that might not even exist.. not to mention the fact that you're still a teenager. WOW. THIS WILL TURN OUT WELL.

K, well so far everything is still going good :) Now been dating for almost 6 months and still going strong, never been better :) Everyone is right, I am very young but I'm old enough to see the consequences of the choices I make and see what I'm getting myself into *for the most part lol* He's coming up at the end of June, beginning of July, to meet me and my family and wants to stay up here for a while so we'll see how it goes :) I'm very aware that he won't be exactly how I think he is but then I'm not going to be the same as he's expecting completely either so its a two way street here. I have to say that I've seen his bad side, he's very up front with his bad traits and always has been and I've seen pictures of those bad traits or more exactly what happens when those bad traits come out :P He completely accepts me the way I am though so I do the same. I'll have known him for a year on the 19th of May also so its not like I just met him lol Thanks again for everyones concerns and I know that this may not be the smartest of choices to most people but this is what feels right to me, he's the first man to ever actually care about me or make me start caring for myself, he's completely changed my life and all for the good so thats gotta say something for him lol

Wow this sounds like an amazing storey congrats i think it's great that you have spoken to eachothers family although you have never met, you sound really happy i hope things remain this way when you guys do meet, i'm sure you'll know truly what is right when you do meet him. :)

*smiles* Thank you Covered in darkness :) Yes, I've never been happier or been treated so good lol Oh yeah, I've talked to a lot of his family, his mother, sister, brother-in-law, 4 year old niece, many cousins, uncle and his personal trainer who kind took on the role of father after his dad died and so far they all love me and we get along great :) He's talked to both my parents, my brother, sister and all my close friends so we're doing good lol And I certainly hope things go this great in person too, guess I'll know for sure if this is real after spending some time with him when he comes up in 2 months :) Thank you again for the encouragement, I need it sometimes lol

I hate to rain on ur party, but how long have you 2 known eachother?two,I hope u know that marriage is going to be very complicated.I give my best wishes,but I think your marrying way too soon. besides, Marrying someone from the net is about the stupidest thing you can do.What if this guy turns out to be a rap*est.Not trying to scare you but,it's a horriable world out there.You sure you want 2 get invovled with this person.Plez don't take it the wrong way.

Congratulations, i hope ur really happy 2gether (to all those engaged via net :) )

i me my bf on bebo, mum's taking me over to aussie to meet him in november :D

i reckon the internet rocks for meeting people, fair enough that u gotta be careful who u meet and where but i go 2 an all girls school, the boys on my bus are just urgh and i'm a shy person so yeah, i can't believe he loves me :D

once again, best of luck 4 tha future, u guys deserve it :D

It's really heartening to know that you two are getting well!

Congrats!

CHRISTIANNA

Thank you everyone, both for your encouragement and concerns :) I'll have known him for a year in 8 days and we've been dating for almost 6 and 1/2 months :) Everyones that knows me seems to be shocked and surprised that we've made it this far but we're still going strong. He's coming up in about 6 weeks and I've never been more nervous and excited about something in my life lol Pretty much the way I view it is my family has come around and gotten used to the idea finally, my parents, older sister and friends all talk to him now and love him :)

K, for the person that said that once I get a real boyfriend I'll look back at this and see how stupid it is...this is not my first relationship, just my first one like this, but I've never felt so sure about a relationship before or ever had a guy make me feel so special, loved, accepted, or had one hold me to such a high standard that it makes me strive to be better than what I am, which is what I needed to get out of what I was doing with my life. Just my personal feelings but this is as real as emotions can get :)

I'm well aware of all the risks, how easily people lie and can be completely different from what they say they are, for all I know I could get really hurt but...this is my choice and I don't think I'm going to get hurt, I've gotten more hurt in face-to-face relationships then I can say, this one I'm taking by faith :)

Congrats, hun. hope it works out. <3

*laughs* Thank you Angelina, I can always count on you to be up front and honest about how you feel. I appreciate people's honesty whether I agree with them or not :) I do have a "real life" as you put it though, a very busy one, but I don't view my relationship any different then the rest of my life, its just as real as the church sermon I heard this morning, my mother, the friend that just hurt me or the baby I held most of the morning, theres no difference at all for me other then I can't touch him like I do them. I have 6 more weeks, I know who he is and that he's real but I guess we'll see for certain then :)

And thank you Metaphoric Reality, it means a lot :)

You're taking the criticism from people quite well here.

Best of luck to ya, but the odds of it working out arent all in your favor. But there's a lot that can happen if two people really care about eachother. It is a peculiar situation, I'll say. You are taking the negative side of the argument quite well.