Our Long Distance Relationship

Okay.. so I have been dating my boyfriend Tyler for a few months and so far everything has been wonderful! Then last Wednesday he had to move away from Arkansas and to Las Vegas.. which is about 4 states away. Before he left, he told me that he wasn't going to break up with me and wanted us to try a LDR because he really loves me and wants it to work. So I agreed and he promised he'd call me every single day.

But the strange thing is.. he hasn't called me since he left the bus station Wednesday morning. I called him Saturday night and we talked for about 10 minutes but he had to go because him and his brother were gonna go watch street racing. He sounded.. different when I talked to him. He wasn't as loving and was like a totally different person. We got on the subject of guys at school hitting on me and he said,"Maybe they're just bored. I hit on girls whenever I'm bored, but it doesn't mean anything." and now I'm worried... he said I love you and all that before we hung up and still hasn't called me or anything.

I need some advice.. anything will help out. What should I do, I really want to talk to him but I don't want to talk to him until he actually calls me himself..

Thanks Britt, your words are very apperciated. And you were right, about everything really. I know different enviroments make people change.. but I just hope it didn't make his feelings for me change as well.. you know?

I guess I just don't want to call him first because I'm afraid.. I feel like there's a reason he hasn't called me and I'm worried about what's going to happen if I end up calling him. I want him to call me because that'll mean that he wants to talk to me, not because he has to.

Thanks to you too, Mike. I know the long distance relationship worked out for you and Mel and I hope it works for me and Tyler too. But you're right, it won't work if he doesn't put any effort into it.. it feels like I'm the only one trying to keep it alive.

I'll try my hardest to keep our relationship alive.. I'll probably end up calling him before the night is over and just talk to him about everything. He needs to know my side and that really, it won't work if he doesn't help out. Thanks again you guys, love ya =)

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You should just call him and lay it out, it is really not fair for him to leave you hanging and put your life on hold. Sometimes we say something before we have all of the information, maybe he did want to stay together before he left, but now that he's there he realizes he may have spoke too soon. LDR's are a lot of work. You both owe it to each other to just be upfront and honest. Why leave someone waiting for something that you know is not going to happen?

So... I call Tyler last night. Guess what happened? I was really nervous and freaking out because I was going to tell him straight up how I felt, and his phone isn't even on right now!!! He has to put money on his phone and it doesn't have any on it right now >.< I was in total shock! And I have no idea how long it's been off.. and now I feel bad for being so paranoid =/

I agree with Britt, but maybe he is trying to send you a message

I know, but his entire family is hard... headed. When he was in Arkansas and his phone went off, he would always have a difficult time getting someone to let him borrow theirs. They just don't like other people using their phones, but I see that you mean Britt. *sighs* so should I be worried again?

Lol indeed they are. When he was here his mom and the other people he lived with had very big problems with him borrowing their phones. I heard them getting on to him sometimes about it.

Sadly, no he doesn't have internet.. I know they have a computer and will probably have internet as soon as they move again. His brother is going to be a dad soon so they're going to move into a bigger house. His parents are moving to Vegas next month too so he's going to move back in with them when they do. Soo.. I don't know of any way to contact him =(

I know =) I was very worried when I didn't hear from him after he left and that's why I called him Saturday. I dunno why he would be avoiding me though(if he were)... because when I started bawling on the phone, I made him cry too! Guys don't do that, not unless they really care about you.

O.o Wow.. that's all very strange. But lol thankfully our situation wasn't like that. I was crying so hard I couldn't speak, and Tyler was on the other line trying to comfort me as much as he could.. then I dunno, he just started crying with me and kept saying how he wish he didn't have to leave. So I asked what was going to happen to us and he said that he wanted us to continue with our relationship and he was "going to call me everyday".

I will =) Thanks a lot Britt. And who knows, maybe he has tried and I just didn't get it.. My phone has been messing up too. It keeps turning itself off! I'll take it out of my pocket and it'll be off, I'll take it off the charger and it'll be off, very annoying! But I'll wait until he gets it turned back on and sees what happens then.

Wow, I'm actually thankful to hear that! We called the people the other day and they thought it was my battery too so they're sending me a new one.. which I should have either today or tomorrow.

I do feel kind of nervous about our relationship.. especially after that thing he said about hitting on girls. Would you be worried about that?

Okay, that makes me feel a lot better! A few other people told me that I should be worried.. but, I guess it is going to happen whether I like it or not. We can't be together in real life so of course he is going to flirt with other girls, and I will with other guys. But there's a line to it that I know I won't cross and I really hope he won't either. We talked and both agreed to just break up before ever cheating so I feel good about him not going too far.

Lol.. I love you guys so much! And I do feel tons better about the situation, thanks for all your help! I promise to update as soon as I'm able to talk to him again =) In the meantime, I'm going to have my phone by me always until he finally checks in with me.

I don't know what to say cuz i was in one and it didn't work out and the hard part he is one of my good friends and now he jus wants a friendship but i am in love with him but he don't want to give a long distance relationship a shot again and whats bad is that his family loves me and i know he is talking to another gurl so im hurt

Love is meant to be closeness
I dont think i could do a LDR
but gd luck if things work out
if they dont u learnt a life lesson

gd luck

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