15 and already plans to get married? to a guy from online?

Youve probably already had a question like this on here, cuz they are kinda common, but oh well im asking anyway...
well im against oneline dating, becuz you really never know if the person is really who they say they are. instead of some guy tht "luvs" you, he could be a 90 yr old woman for all you know.
...well i had jus made a vampirefreaks.com profile, and i got a comment from this guy..he said hi whts up, and i was bored so i commented back..
then he got all excited cuz im the only girl hes every met tht likes the same band as him, so we talked more. then he VF imed me and we starting talking. he told me i was cute, and i told him he was pretty cute too, and we keep arguing back an forth on who was cuter.
....according to his VF profile, he was 16, male, and lived in Texas. on mine, i had some random state and everything cuz i know how people are on the internet. but basically im jus a hipocrite..
cuz he asked me if i wanted to go out, and i said, "how would we do tht, you live on the otherside of the country compared to me." and he said tht he didnt know, but he really really liked me. which i thought was untrue, cuz he JUS met me. so i said no.
....my friend, whose all for online dating, (total opposite of me) said i should say yes.
...and he kept asking, and so i said yes. *and at this point, if ur still reading, ur probably saying, wow this girl is dense*.
....so he got all happy and stuff and said he doesnt know why, but he alreadu knows he wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and tht i shoudlnt worry cuz he would never hurt me.
he told me personal information like, tht his parents have beat him since he was 8, tht hes neevr kissed a girl, and tht he gets made fun of at his school...
he gave me his myspace so i could talk to him more, and we added eachother, and i asked him how he expects to be my girlfriend, if we can only talk online and tht he lives so so so far away. and he answered, "ill save up my money to visit you."
i dont think this is gonna last, and i dont know if i even want it to. i really like him too, but in the back of my mind im saying, 'hes not real, its all a skam'. my friend keeps talking about my wedding with him already and idk if i should be happy and luv him back and all, or end it rite now.
my friend said her moms friends got married after meeting from online, they really did fall in love, and they are HAPPILY MARRIED. but i still dont like this.
wht do you think?

I dont like it. this kid is already talking about spending his life with you? RED FLAG. he's obviously starved for attention, seeming from his 'background' info.

he sounds real...
real scary.

You are 15 dont settle down. get away from that boy he aint good for you...

If your not comfortable get out of it, he does seem clingy already lol There is an easy way to tell who you are talking to out there in the internet world, webcams are wonderful, they are also pretty cheap so if you don't have one, 10 bucks should not break your bank, now if there was a constant reason they refused to show themselves obviously something is up. Lots of people have met and kept relationships via the net, it is no different than in person, it is the luck of the draw.

Whatever you do, good luck!!!

Ya this sounds very odd....break up with him i mean wats the point have u guys ever talked on the fone?

Sounds like a stalker. tell him your really a guy, he'll leave you alone

Ok. The teen love tragedy killed me with the tell him your a guy. Itd work though prolly. Unless hes bi, then your screwed. But in all cases, who the hell does that? Stop talking to him and open your eyes kiddo. Pieces.

Oh jeez. Seriously, do NOT let him ever know your address, or even the country you live in. Somethings wrong with him.

Ok, I clearly have no problem with online dating *as anyone whos seen some of my posts will know* but theres something wrong here. I'm in a online relationship and we've taken it kind far but we've known eachother for almost a year and take things slow. You both are way to young to be in this kind of mess and he seems to be very insecure and clingy. Someone that gives out their personal information that quick and starts getting that attached that soon...I'd just back off A LOT right now. Plus, for it to be something that your friends talked you into...if your not sure it's what you want then you shouldn't stay in the relationship, let alone even consider marrage. I'd just hate for anything to happen to you sweetie. PM me anytime k?
~*Rhea*~

Gahh... GET awayyyy... now.... i dont want to read about you in the paper.....

"He says I'm the only girl on the site" and "He said I'm pretty cute" and "He said he'll save up money so he could come visit me". Don't tell me hearing those things in the same sentense doesn't make you uncomfortable. GET OUT NOW. I've online dated before and it's only ended in ruin. AND it's dangerous. None of us want to see you get hurt so I'd back out now. Being friends is fine but commiting yourself to him and letting him do the same is just reckless.

Of course, your discision is your own. Just be careful and don't give him any personal information.

You can end up getting hurt for no reason at all. I wouldn't go for it..but it's your life.
Now I would be a hypocrite if I told you to listen to me or trust me because after all, like him, i'm just a person on the internet.
I really wouldn't waste my time on it. But again, your decision.

--Viola

Awww poor guy
maybe just tell him u want to start over
coz its too soon for you
get to know him more and like talk to him on the fone and find out he is who he is
then work out what u want.
but from wat i can see u said ur self u wernt sure.
but gd luck with watever u do
xx

He doesn't sound scary to me, he just sounds like he's desperate for something he can't have. stop contact immediately instead of torturing yourself with ways of how to tell him. you'd be much better off forgetting he exists and just.. not agreeing to date online. you may feel mean for rejecting but it's worse tugging them on just to let them loose. he'll move on eventually and he'll feel better that you did what you did.. i bet he says the same thing to every girl he meets online.

My first love ... I met online. I actually went to meet him (with my mom) when I was 15. We'd been sending letters back and forth. He e-mailed my parents and talked to them on the phone so they were less skeptical about him being some sort of petifile. He's been in my life for 5 years now and he's one of my best friends. Although it didn't work out, for obvious reasons, its one of the best things, if not the most wild things, I've ever done.

No.
run away. now as fast as you can. this is a very dangerous situation besides you're only 15. Even if this was some great thing you're too young to try at a long distance relationship. It's extremely hard and stressful. Back away, block him, do something but end it before you get yourself in too deep. I had the samething happen to me 2yrs ago. Only it was via myspace and he lived only one state over. we met once in the city and it was the most awkward experience cause he was nothing like he said.
DONT GET TRAPPED IN THE IDEA OF HIM BEING REAL most likely he's not 100% how he says he is.

The thing about dating people online is it doesn't always work and when you are in love with them they sometimes decide that they like someone else and dump you because they want that person and because that person is in another state they never have to see them.
My boyfriend dated a girl online from Norway and they were together for a little bit and he fell in deep love with her and she came here to see him and he went there to see her. Well then she moved to Brazile for a little bit and decided she liked some one else. Even one of his friends dated some online people and said they were going to get married just be careful also from the age you are because I am 15 also and you don't need your heart broken.
Any q's just PM me and I will be happy to answer them and help you out.
~His blue eyed angel forever~

I understand where you're coming from, but just remember this hunny... Not EVERYONE online is bad. I know, a lot are, but there are also some honest and true people. If you really like him, then you're just going to have to trust him, for now anyways. But don't be giving out personal information or anything. Seriously, you just MET this guy. And from what you said, he sounds totally desperate. You shouldn't get too attached.

I think you should try finding someone that goes to the same school as you. Online relationships are hard, I would know, and almost all of them don't last. Please don't get your heart broken over some idiot that never deserved you in the first place, do what your heart feels is right. If you feel like you don't even want it to last between you guys, then let him go. You can't help how you feel. Good luck.

People who are online, specially vampire freaks, they are always desperate, they want attention, and if you ask me, its really bad becuase then you get really attatched to the comp and all and you sacrifice ur social life, and then you feel all down and stuff...its not worth it, and the thats problem with online, its just words, just typing, it doesnt have expressions and it doesnt have anything in it...he could be saying this and laughing, and would have no idea. I don't know what you should do, but dude, marriage?? cmon wat the freakn hell?? right there he is really desperate .....just DONT get detatched, live your life, and just talk to him time to time...like, make him realise that he isnt going to take over your life...and just do what you do...

That sounds really scary. he sounds desperate.....which should put up a red flag. and it seems to have done so. i would suggest breaking it off with him...don't get attached...

First off, I love how people who don't full understand he situation are like, "OMG *craps their pants* GET OUT NOW". LMAO You guys really crack me up. Thanks for the laughs.

Anyway, about your situation. Marriage is out of the question. But meeting him is not. You're only 15, you can't get married anyway. It would be a preneptual agreement.

I think you should meet him, get to know him in person. (with someone guarding you ;) just so the people who are already crapping their pants don't have a heart attack) lmao. And go from there.

Its your call on what you do. Whether you listen to me, them, yourself... its your life.

Good luck, don't *die* haha. And take care :P

I'm all for online dating.
But if you don't feel comfortable, then don't do it.
Personally I think you shoudn't of said yes in the first place if you don't want to be with him. He does sound desperate, but he could be sincere. And you are just stringing him on.

Im also dating online.. but in ur situation i guess i dont think so that he is seriously spending his life w/u for the rest of his life becasue he still young and there are still a lot of things to realize and think of> dont be so rush and as what u saud u just met him online so.... just keep on knowing to each other and see whats the result.

i've been also dating online for almost 4 years but yeah its just online he also wanted to marry me but not just now coz im still knowing him well if were meant to be why not!

well, sometimes LOVE is not just only how long u've been together or u've been knowing each other or how very short u've been knowing each other. coz love is a feelings that we can't ever control. there are times some couple meets only for a shortime though online dating, blind date or what kind of set of love .... is according or its up to the two people who were both inlove w/each other and live forever and spend there lives for the rest of their life!
well gooduck!