How do I help him?

I wasn't really sure where to post this but here it is :)

My boyfriend is going through a really rough patch at the moment - his parents have split up. It came as such a shock because it was so sudden. His dad isn't living with him any longer and I know how much that hurts him because they got along so well.

I find it really hard to say the right things because I just can't relate to his situation - our relationship with our parents are so different.

I don't know what to do to help him; We live in different cities so we only meet up in the holidays. I can't be there for him physically although I will be seeing him soon.

He knows I'm there for him but I just feel as if I'm not doing enough. He's such an amazing person and has done so much for me so it's kind of like my turn to return the favour.

Any help will be appreciated :)
xxx.

To be honest I don't know how you can help. I have been in a situation simular to yourself and it put's a whole lot of pressure on you because al you want to do is the right thing. You cannot physically help him whether your there or not all you can do is be there to pick up the pieces for him when he falls down. As long as you stand strong he will look up to that and it will help for someone to help him through this (even if it is only a phone call etc..)

So all you got to do is keep smiling and lead the way and set and example for him...

xxx Alex xxx

Just be a good girlfriend. You cant take up a spot where his dads supposed to be. And this is also a strength of character situation. I dont live with one of my parents but Im still alive and moving. If your boyfriends strong he should get through this, and if he wants to live with his dad then why the heck not? And he can still visit his dad so I dont see why this would be such a big deal, but everyones problem is different. Pieces.

I think you just need to let him know you care. That you care about him, and if he wants to talk he can talk to you. and support is important. let him cry on ur shoulder, if he does. Otha than that, there reli isnt much you can do.

~Tiff~

I think you need to keep talking to him constantly...tell him to keep talking to his father i know its going to hurt him that he cant see him all the time he's going to have to set up an system were he can see him like spend the nights at his house on weekends...lunch...movies..go to his house in the afternoon on certain days and come back home.!! but need to let him that if he need anything
to call you!! I hope my advice helps!

Well, since you live in different cities, it does seem a bit hard, but talk to him as much as you can. I'll bet he needs someone to talk to and you're the one who can help him the most. My man went through this during his teen years, but by then we were still friends. so my advice to you is just stick by his side and I think that's gonna make him happy.

Thank you for all your help :)
I've been speaking to him a lot and he's been getting things off his chest - He seems to have accepted it now and I truly believe he'll cope, I wasn't so sure before.
He's not ready to speak to his dad yet but he says he will once he feels it's time.

Thanks again!
xxx.