How do I tell him...?

I hung around with my b/f all day today untill he had to go to work (at 4) and then I did some New Years stuff with my father all night...Well before I left my b/f told me to call him when I got home becauese he got out of work (at 9) and I told him I'd call him...but when I got home my mom told me that she ran into my b/f at his work and he told her that he was going to go drinking after work and he didn't know if I'd be able to get a hold of him when I got home...So when I got home I did get a message from him...He said that he sounded wierd on the machine because he was drunk but he still wanted me to call him...I told my mother that I loved my b/f very much but I was not going to call him because I do not want to talk to him when he is drunk...I mean I did drink with him once and we both got drunk (but I feel it was a mistake)...I don't like getting drunk or talking to people who are... How do I tell him when I do talk to him that I'd rather him not call me to talk when he is drunk without hurting his feelings? It's not like I won't let him drink or anything...I don't really like to control him in any way, and this is only the second time in 4.5 months that he has gotten drunk, maybe even only the second time he has had any thing to drink since we've been going out (I'm not sure). I don't care if he drinks as long as he doesn't all me drunk. Actually I'd rather not know when he is drunk. What should I say?

Well don't say I'd rather not know when you're drunk, that could lead to other problems. Just let him know drinking is not your thing, you don't care if he wants to go out and drink but you'd rather not and you would prefer if he just called you the next day.

^^ agreed.

K, I understand where your coming from but, for me personally, I prefer if my boyfriend IM's/calls me or something like when he's drunk lols Not that I like him being like that but because at least I know where he is and that he's alright lols
If it really bothers you though then yes, its a good idea to talk to him about it but don't say anything to rash, you might come to regret it lols Just tell him that you don't mind him drinking or even being drunk but that it's not something that you like personally for yourself and would prefer if he'd just wait till he was sober to call you, that it makes you feel better to talk to him once he's sober.

It should be no problem telling him you'd rather not speak to him when he's drunk. It's all about communication. At least you're not trying to control him; if he doesn't understand, then it's his problem.

Well girl, the best way to tell him that you don't like it is telling him when he's sober. I know what you mean though because when my man and I were still friends, he would call me drunk and I didn't like it. The reason is because a couple of years ago, he got into a car accident and he was driving drunk with 3 of his friends. They crashed and one of his friends died on the accident. He doesn't drink much anymore, only sometimes because of our son, but the point is, you should just let him know when he's not under the influence of alcohol. Hope this helped.

*Cindy*

Yeah I'll try talking to him when he's sober...which is most of the time...So...

Gd luck

I think honesty is the best thing right now....
sometimes the truth hurts

Indeed a problem....