I just want to give up

So basically everything i do is wrong!! My dad always treats me like im stupid and i cant do anything...don't get me wrong...i love my dad and he loves me but he just pushes me and pushes me and i just want to give up!! He always talks to my older brother about everything and i just cant take it...i just want him to notice me and be proud of me

Tell him how you feel about how he keeps pushing and pushing. My paps used to shove me higher than the stars -- always comparing me to his friend's daughter (who's been in charge of like 12 freakin' companies since she was 29 or something) wanting me to be like her. Finally I just yelled at him, and told him to leave me the f* alone and stop making me live his life and not letting me live mine.
Like you said, you love him and he loves you -- the only problem is that he doesn't know when to stop pushing. You gotta let him know or he'll just keep shoving you till you go psycho.

Ah the story of my relationship with my father growing up. Pushed to be be thin, smart, obedient, all the things I wanted to be but overlooked because I was pushed towards it. I learned in later years that it was because he wanted my sister and I to have more chances than he had, he just did not understand pushing was not the answer, guiding was. All you can do is tell him how you feel and hope he understands what pushing you is doing, not only to you but your relationship.

That is crap... my dad is the smae he pushes me and pushes me to be this perfect girl and then when i mess up and make mistakes it is like i am the worst thing on earth... he doesnt talk to me now... he told me he didnt want me and that i was never again welcome in his house because his 25 year old girlfriend doesnt like me. He said i was a whore and woul never achieve nothing in life, and he doesnt want me. How do you fix that?!?!

Prove him wrong...show him that you are better than that and make something of yourself...Show him that you don't need him..I know this sounds hard but it will make you strong....And for his gf...she is probably the whore

Yeah same, i have given up trying to make my mother prode, or get her to like me. im just going to try and get along with her the best i can while i am at home and do what i want to do. if she wants me to be someone else thats tough, she cant live her life through me.

Yeah. .my dad does the same to me. He pushes me and tries to make me be perfect, but I can't be. I wish he understood. But yeah, try telling your dad how you feel. Tell him to stop pushing you so much and that you're trying as hard as you can to make him proud.

Try talking to him first. But Make him listen dont leave unless you have told him whats on your mind. He probably doesnt know how to talk to you or what to talk to you about. But with your brother its easy, because they are both guys and they go though the same things. Let him know you need his help too or that You want his insight as well

Oh girl, I know exactly how you feel. My dad and I haven't gotten along in years and it's gonna be hard for you to get him to notice you. If you really want him to notice you, just try everything to realize it. Unlike me, I never did. He doesn't even approve of the life I have right now, which is that I live with my fiance (who used to be my best friend) and we have a 2 month old son. *gasps* oh well, but I can see you want him to notice you, so just try your harderst ok. Hope this helped! ^_^

.:CiNdY:.

Turn that frown upside down. :)

Things could be worse.

My dad hated me 'cause I was not good enough for him. Then he got sick of me and then beat the hell out of me every day for thirteen years 'til he died.

I found hitting him back helped a lot... o.O'

You should hit your dad...?

No no... that can't be the right thing to do... just try really hard at everything. Not too hard though 'cause you'll kill yourself with the effort or become an insane perfectionist who despises imperfection and then goes insane and kills everyone because they are not good enough for you. o.O'

I need sleep. Or coffee... it's to dame late to sleep. :(

Oh a purple moose. I'll name him Billy!

My dads the same since mum left ive been always getting pushed to do this and do that.. expected to go on to further education did that now he calls the time i did that a bludge and says if i study anymore i'm kicked out... he just expects me to find a full time job like that and keep the entire house spotless and cook all the meals yet im banned from the net so i cant exactly look for work that way.. i sneek on here while his not home but yeah, fathers in particular if its a single parent family seem to have a lot greater expectations particualary on their daughters

I can totally relate to this right now. Only its with my mom and not my dad. I just sit back and handle all the negativity she has to say about me. And even though she can sometimes be a pain, I still love her because I know she loves me. I do everything I can to make her proud, but its like she never notices...idk...