Great, here we go again.

  • ashleeey
    16 years ago

    I posted on here during the summer about my so-called "girlfriend" (we messed around but no one knew about it, we were never really 'official') and how much I cared for her, but that I wasn't sure how it'd work out between us.
    Well, here's what's happened:

    As I said in the post a while ago, she got held back. And just like I thought, we stopped talking. For a month or two, I believe. I thought about her all the time, and called her a couple times but she never answered or called me back. It was like she had forgotten all about me, and didn't even care. It literally tore me apart, and I was really depressed for a while. I got together with a close friend though, and I guess having a boyfriend and someone who really cared about me again eased the sadness a tiny bit. But then one night, just out of the blue, I called her. And remarkably, she answered. We talked and laughed about school and what had been going on for like 3 hours. It felt good to chat with her like that again. She had a boyfriend though, and I have to admit, that stung a little bit. And I told her how I felt, and that I didn't want things to change. She told me that she had moved on, and things had to change. I got upset and hung up. Recently she told me that after I hung up on her she pulled out the box she had of every single note I'd ever written her, and she read them all, and she cried. Since then we've been talking almost everyday, but she's changed a lot since the summer. I'd never say anything to try and really hurt her, but she's turned into a sl*t. She has like three boyfriends, all of them are good friends, but don't know about each other (I have no idea how). But we still talk like we used to, telling each other we love the other, and saying sweet things like how we neevr want to lose each other again. We could've hung out on New Year's Eve, but I left to go to my neighbor's literally minutes before she called to make sure she could still come over.

    So yeah...The point of this was first of all to get it all out, and second of all to ask opinions of what I should do. I'll probably post more on this to kind of clarify things, but for now I just want advice.

    (And btw, I'm still with my boyfriend, we've been together almost three months now.)

  • amoxi
    16 years ago

    Ok trying to get this straight, u had a summer gf and then things got distant and she has 3 bf's and u have a bf now but u miss her and want her but shes moved on?

  • Gem
    16 years ago

    I think you've being unfair on your boyfriend for a start.
    Having feelings for someone else when your with someone is wrong, be it male or female so by stringing him along like this you're going to hurt him as well which is unfair.

    As for this girl. She seems to have moved on and changed and not for the better. You say you have both become close again? Well, how do you know you're not just another chump like these three lads she has on the go?

    Sweet, sorry for being harsh but you need to distance yourself from this girl and fast. She may have been a nice person once and shared something special with you but whatever that was, it's not there now, no matter how much you try to recreate it. Not only that but your 14!?
    I doubt that either of these two people are going to be the ones you spend your life with!
    You also need to reconsider your current boyfriend because you can't truly love him if you like someone else like this.

    Good luck sorting yourself out
    *Gem*

  • TwistedAngel xx
    16 years ago

    Hope everything gets sorted out
    ur love should only be given to one person
    so think who deserves it and dont leave the other one thinking they have it

    xx