MEMORYS

Do you think there worth holding onto if they hurt you??

I think sometimes holding on to them is good even if they make u cry etc, depends on what kind of memories bf-gf relationships no, friendships maybe, family, childhood mmrs etc yes for sure.

Depends on what your holding on to and why it hurts you.

There memorys between me an my ex.

They hurt to remeber because of the brake up we had which turned ugly.
i hate who hes become.
hes taking drugs now.

I guess he couldnt deal with the pain of a broken heart. SO by taking drugs he doesnt have to.

Why remeber something. That just hurts.

I'd have to say this is the kind of thing id personally rather not hang on to, maybe if you still have contact with him you should stop it'll hurt you more, it may take some time to forget and you will probably still remember bits of the experience but i believe this will make you stronger in the future if other relationships turn sour.

As someone already mentioned everything you've gone through in the past have made you the person you are today. The painful past, the bad memories, the hurt it all gives you a story to tell- of where you've been and where you wish to never go back. They make you who you are. I would never leave them behind.
But ofcourse you can't let them drag you down everyday either. That is not good.

--Viola

So true.

Personally, I think it's yes and no. It just all depends on the situation. Like, you know how every friend will be like "you deserved better" or "he's not worth your time anyway" or "just forget about the a-- hole" Well, even if all that stuff is true, it doesn't always help get the memories to die away.

The memories I have with one of my ex, I simply can't let go. But after he hurt me, I changed. I use to be like. .nerdy. .like I hardly had any real friends and all I did was worry, worry, worry. After that experience [he was my first bf btw] I changed into the person I am today. And even though those memories still hurt me, it also reminds me of what I've gained, you know.

Memories exist for a reason. And if you still have memories of someone, then maybe it's just that you're not ready to let go. And if you're not ready, you shouldn't push it. :]

If they hurt you..i dont think so.
but two moments in life, can become a lifetime memory, so if its really something good hold on to it.. if not forget about it.

Yes...and no...but reality is how do you forget?

Depends really
but their making you happy might be worth more than forgetting and moving on
i dunno really

Memories remind you of things you've gotten through and that you are still here, fighting.

Memories remind you of things you've gotten through and that you are still here, fighting.

Sometimes they do hurt you but they give you a spec of hope or happiness, like losing a loved one, you feel sad and all but you can't ignor the wonderful memories left and you wouldn't be able to rest if you forgot them. If the memories you are talking about don't give you even a spec of nice feelings and they are all bad, like rape then forget them and do your best to make sure they are not again a part of your life.

If they hurt you... get them all packed neatly into a box and hide it under your bed.. that way when the time is right and you don't think they can hurt you anymore, take the box out and see how well you've healed.
:)

I think that if they you have memories that hurt you
to a certain extent they are worth holding onto as
it can help you to avoid and prevent those
situations from repeating themselves again in the future
but don't allow them to take over and prevent positivity.
You also need to move on and create more positive memories to heal the previous ones that hurt you.

Yes i think so, because even if they hurt they should have done something good in ur life or have taught you a lesson even if this lesson was taught while they were hurting you.and these memories are an important part of your life.

Well, I really don't know how to say it. I remember everything of my past extremely well, well enough I could have written it in a book! But unfortunately, my past if filled with too much of sadness, regrets, despair and things I wish I could forget.

My memory of the past is too good and it felt as though everything happened just yesterday. Everytime I am down in the dumps, I try to recall some happy moments in life which might make me smile but most of the time, they only make me feel worst because its too sad.

I can't seem to think of a better tomorrow nor believe that happiness and love is on its way. All I know, tomorrow will always be uninvited and bleak......

'Do you think there worth holding onto if they hurt you??'

Yep. Many of the memories I've learned the most from are memories which hurt to remember. Recognising why they hurt and acting on that has made me a stronger and better person.

I've experienced addiction and many of the memories of that hurt -a lot-, but that pain is a large part of the reason I've stayed strong now. When that pain fades staying sober is going to be a whole lot harder. We learn from pain.

As well, some memories can be good and still hurt. The memories of my brother hurt so much, but I'd be heart broken to loose them because they're all I have of him now.

Some things just cant be forgotten...
I hold my memories close & yes they hurt me soo much but Ive kinda learned I can learn from them