Breaking the rules....

Okay, so im with this guy i like at the moment. I'm 17 years old and he is 23 (today, happy bday lol) we really like eachother but my dad doesn't like him and his mum don't like me.

we shouldn't really be together, but there is a connection that we cant ignore. we recently went to a company xmas party (cause we work together) and we spend 13 hours hugging then we couldn't stop thinking about eahcother.

within 3 days i had his number

within another 2 we went out together doing some 'work'

the next day he broke up with his girlfriend

the next day we had our first kiss

three days later we had our first date

four days later we had sex for the first time

and it sounds like it is moving so fast, but it doesn't feel like it. do you think we need to slow down? Cause of the perent thing we are having to lie but i dunno, is this a bad thing or not.

I know he's not using me, but some people do think that becasue of the age gap, but once they met him they realise that he really is a lovely person. and he has never done anytihng to make me feel uncomfortable. okay we had sex pretty fast but it wasn't rushed (if that makes sence)

i just wwant an honest oppinion what we should o about our parents, and if we are falling to fast.

help me guys!!!

23 is not so bad, but still be careful, the age might not be too big a deal, but how fast you move is, just make sure yo are making the right decisons for you.

This sounds like such a typical situation, no offence. Younger girl meets older guy, he's "really sweet", she puts out immediately- at his suggestion, of course. Unfortunately, the next step is you, alone, with a broken heart.

I would have to agree with your parents. I know you think he's not the kind of guy to use you, but how do you know? It's only been what, a week? He's too old for you, you're moving too fast, and you're just going to get hurt.

I don't think that age really has anything to do with it. because if the two people can talk to each other and trust each other then they are trying making it work.

As for the dad, well....you can show him and tell him that your boyfriend isn't going anywhere and maybe he can give him a chance. get them to spend time together somehow and maybe your dad will see what you see in your boyfriend. best of luck to you :)

This is my questions... that one time having sex turns into a nonstop thing... you have sex everytime you two get alone... you get preggo and then where is he in the pic... still their or off with another younger girl to do the same... I'm asking this because i thought i had the same thing with a guy that was a year younger then me... everything went little fast and so did the end...

You really can't stop the feelings you have for ewach other. If you say you have a connection with him that you can't ignore, than go ahead and have your relationship with him. I have the same problem since my dad doesn't like my fiance and his mom doesn't like me, but that hasn't stopped us from making our life together. Our age difference isn't like yours though cause I'm 19 and he's 21, but age doesn't matter when you're really in love with someone. I think you did go a little too fast in the sex part, but it happened already and you can't do anything about it. Just talk to your parents that you can't be apart from each other, and if they don't accept, then don't let that stop you. I hope this helped. Good luck! =D

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5 years dosn't matter 10 maby 15 abt too much 20... WTF... It depens on who your talking to if you wanna know my opinion if you love them you can never go too fast except for marriage. Parent aren't an isshue if you love him

Ok, I'm kinda in the same boat as you on this but this is all I can say to try to help you, the age difference can be a bit rough *it's the same ages as my boyfriend and me* and yes, as others have said he's already looking at houses and kids and I'm still growing up in many ways but it can still work even with that difference as long as you both discuss it and talk about what bothers you both, the parent thing...idk what to say on that one =P I'm dealing with the same thing and haven't told my dad about him *and we've been dating for 3 months almost* but my mom loves him and his mom loves me lol All I can say is if they have problems with your relationship then sit them down and talk about it, listen to their side of it and then explain your side, it may not change their minds but at least you know how eachother feels lol I think you might've moved a little fast but it's done now so theres no changing it, as long as you both think and use your heads then I think you have a good chance :) Best of luck to you and just use your head and follow your heart :)

Just tell your parents how u feel for him
they r prolly just apprehensive coz they dont wanna see you hurt
doesnt mean u will or not but u have to make ur own mistakes
parents just dont want bad things to happen 2 u
be thankful ur parents love u enuf to care so much and gd luck!!!!

xx