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I just found out i've been cheated on... i'm hysterical... i need someone to talk to... anyone?

Yeah it sucks, I am around if you would like to message me.

Well.. he's not worth your tears & you're way more better than he is. ;]

You can talk to me whenever u want
how did u find out?
was it with someone you know?
whats happenin with him now?
does he want you back?

My sister called me and said stay by your phone because you're gonna get a call. and thats all she said... a few minutes later i get a restricted call from this one sophomore from my old high school that i graduated with. she told me she was dating him and has been since april of last year. she didn't know about me. she said he kept telling her we didn't talk no more. and he told me that they didn't talk no more either because they use to before me and him graduated last june... im a freshmen in college and she's a sophomore in high school. i wasn't friends with her at all but i did know who she was... he wants to talk. he says he doesn't want to say goodbye.

He already said good bye when he decided to step out on your relationship. You're in college, enjoy it, there are plenty of opportunities out there to find someone who actually respects your relationship.

You can talk to me whenever
and the way i see it
your much better than him and you dont need him

Lol i was writing a reply and then my computer went back on me grr
i was saying that what goes around comes around so he will prolly do the same thing to the other girl and if u r looking for someone honest and trustworthy they will find you. how did your sis know? is she friends with the girl?
how long were u with the guy for?
also if a guy lies to your face, get rid of him coz he if he doesn't have the common decency to be honest with you a relationship with him would just be built on lies. if u took him back it would be like saying its ok to act like he did.
forget him, try and move on and love will come your way i promise.
if he doesnt want to say goodbye. you tell him goodbye. say it for him.
let me no wat u do
gd luck
xx

My sister knew because she is friends with that's other girls best friend. (my sister is still in high school with that girl). and that other girl me and my sister have known since we were in elementary school and she knew that me and him have been going out and when she told my sister that that girl and my boyfriend have been going out too, my sister told her that that can't be true because me and him were going out. her friend has been trying to tell that girl that he was cheating on her with me and was trying to get her to leave him. that's when my sister told me i was getting a call... me and him have been together for 2 years on the 23rd of december... i'm so confused and hurt and i don't know what to do or say. i know what i want to say but i'm afraid i'm just gonna blow up..

So are they still together? wow that is a long time, my longest relationship is nearly a year and a half and i am still in that one now. it must hurt soooooooo badly right now but u gotta remember if he wasn't the one for you there is still someone waiting to meet you and fall in love with you. give it time, time to heal and time to move on. maybe write some poems? i wouldn't talk to him or the other girl. if he wants to talk to you thou just ignore him. or maybe tell him to write you a letter about what hes feeling and pass it on to you. if he is sincere and wants to talk to you you might wanna no wat he wants to say to you. know what i mean? keep me posted
xx

I don't think so... and yeah it is a really long time. i didn't think i was gonna be in a relationship with anyone that would have lasted that long in high school.... and yeah it still hurts so badly... i can't seem to get it off my mind... oh and he called...

It would play over and over again in ur mind. I totally no that it would be pretty hard 24get it.
oooh he called??
wat did he say??

....

Well, I'm not a good role model for this type of situation. It's a huge decision and it's unfair of him to do this to you!! It really is....

My boyfriend who I've been dated for over a year, almost a year and 1/2...He's cheated on me twice within the first 8 months. Once with his ex girlfriend, next with a girl he just wanted to have sex with. And both times...I thought I was going to DIE...I was so depressed. I lost my virginity to him and I gave my entire HEART into the relationship!! I had never completely given myself to someone before and that kind of disappointment was heartbreaking. But you know...I did believe that people make mistakes. And I wanted so badly to forgive him because I couldn't stand the thought of being without him or being with another guy. Hell,...I couldn't stand the thought of him being with another girl, but he already made that decision without me.
So we broke up for like a day before he just broke down and cried and cried...he swore up and down that he'd never do it again. NEVER. And he'd break up with me before he did. And he'd hate himself for it. Said that I was the most beautiful girl he's ever seen and that it damn near killed him to put me in that kind of pain. And I could tell he regretted it. So I put restrictions on his relationships with girls simply because I didn't trust him and he couldn't talk to his ex girlfriend if he wanted to be with me.

So...when my dad kicked me out of my house in Virginia and I was forced to move to Georgia..within a month of me being gone (we have a long distance relationship now), he found a new girl. And she made him believe that she loved him and she could treat him better than I did. And he wanted to get in her pants sooooo bad because she is so beautiful. So beautiful...and I'm just the doormat. He stepped all over me to get to her. And it was a slow process....slow as hell for him to finally tell me what the hell was going on.
And he did it in such a cowardly way.
He texted me after he made out with a girl Jennifer and told me that he couldn't do it anymore and he'd found someone else. I was in shock. It was in a text, short and simple. And when he got home from the movie with her, he texted me to apologize for what he'd done. And I couldn't hate him but I said it was over. And I didn't want to be the one to end it because I loved him sooooo much!! It shouldn't ever end with you leaving someone that YOU love, it seems. But he begged for me back and said never. ever. ever. again and if he did he'd kill himself.
Well, within the next week, I came home from school and got about 10 calls from some of my old friends in Virginia who claimed they saw him carrying Jennifer in his arms and kissing her and touching her outside of the school...
I asked him about it and he gave me some bullcrap excuse about how she had hurt her ankle and she needed him to carry her home. And he denied kissing her.
Next day the same thing happens, and I asked him and he denied it. And told me I needed to stop being so paranoid. Then he broke up with me. Said he didn't love me anymore and there was nothing I could do to keep him with me. I've never been in such a pathetic mess. I was sobbing, I couldn't breath, i refused to eat, I refused to sleep. And every moment i was awake, it felt like someone was RIPPING my heart in half.
Eventually Donnie found Jennifer hanging all over some other guy in front of him and it broke his heart. Thus he came back to me. I'm REBOUND girl all of a sudden.
And I took him back.
Because for some reason I believe that people can change. And sometimes they can. I know that I've cheated before. Sometimes I'm tempted to cheat again, but I know I wouldn't. And sometimes, I know that you have to make the same mistake several times to finally get the picture. So I kept waiting on the change. Waiting for him to realize.
And it's been 8 months since the whole Jennifer fiasco. I get so depressed some days about what he did to me. I never understand how someone who claims to love me that much could hurt me that badly and that brutally. Sometimes I regret forgiving him because after all of that...I don't think I can ever trust him again. Sucks, don't it?

But my best advice is to leave him. It's agony to hang in there, but it's temporary pain if you break up with him. One day or another you won't feel that heartbreak anymore and it'll be old news and you'll have someone new. Someone sooo much better!! And you'll be happier because he won't cheat on you. But if you stay with this loser,....how will you ever find the right guy????

Cheaters suck.
they always come up with some excuse..
do you know the person your partner cheated on you with?

To you have my xx heart... thank you for the advice... and this isn't the first time it has happened with me and him. or even the second... i'm so sorry to hear that about you. i would be devasted. even though i already am... it amazes me though how someone can go through what you have and still manage to be strong like the way you sound... i hope everything works out for you and you find that guy that is right for you and treats you the way you should be treated... thank you for the advice...

to perfect imperfection... yeah i agree. cheaters suck. i honestly thought that i was never going to be one to be cheated on. i honestly thought i never would and it hurts... and yeah i completely agree with the whole coming up with some excuse thing... and yeah. i do know who he cheated on me with. she's not a friend. i just went to school with her. not anymore though because i graduated and she's younger than me...

You know...
I always told myself growing up that I would leave anybody that cheated on me. I thought I KNEW what I should do...I thought the answer was obvious until it happened. And when he cheated...I don't know...nothing seemed to feel right. And I didn't want to do what I had always told myself I'd HAVE to do. Does that make sense??

And you're very welcome. I understand and will respect you for whichever decision you make, but eventually you should recognize when enough is enough. If this is the 3rd or 4th or 5th time...you really ought to move on. Because although it doesn't feel like it...there are soooo many good guys out there!! That aren't abusive, cheaters, or liars, or perverts. Just...try it out, you know? He's obviously made the choice to put someone above you! Make it CLEAR to him that you're an independent woman and you don't need his sorry ass.
=]

Hey you can always talk to mee...
and i dont think you should waist your tears on him.. he isnt worth them if he cheated on you so try to think about things other then him :]

Ik how that feels so if you need sum1 to talk to you can pm me!!!!