Should I confront her?

My cousin likes my b/f but I made it clear to her thathe's mine and she can't have him...Well just to see what she would so I went on his Myspace account (he gave me permission to do so) and pretended to be him and left her a message saying that I...er...he wanted to go out with her...At first she said no becasue she said that I her cousin was going out with him...But then I left her another message saying how much I really liked her and if we...er...they...could heep it a secret from me would she change her mind...I thought she would still say no and then I would have left it like that...But she left a message saying that she would love to go out with me after all because she broke up with her b/f for me...er...him...And that she feels she is way better than me (her cousin)...I saved all the messages so far but I don't know what else to do...I mean I didn't really truse her before and that was why I was doing what I did...But now that I know what she said I don't know what else to do...

I say you confront her about everything..i mean your bf gave you permission to do this so just go for it...tell her you know everything and see what happens

Wow, are you really 19? That was an incredibly immature way to handle things. Maybe she lied and went behind your back, but you also lied and went behind hers. Grow up, get over it, and put this behind you. She's your cousin! Don't let some boy come between you.

My b/f told mer a few weeks ago that she keeps asking him out and he keeps saying no...She told me that he was lieing and that she never said anything. I do trust my b/f completely but I do not trust my cousin as far as I can throw her. She said no to him on his Myspace because she thought I was reading his messages. As soon as I pretended to be him and told her that no one was reading my...er...his messages her story completely changed to the way she was talking to him on the phone. I just wanted written proof that she would do such a thing to me...I mean I have heard her say she wants to be with him over the phone and all but I wanted some written proof so that I could go to her and be like "I heard you talking to my b/f on the phone and asking him out and telling him that you love him...Now you can't deny it because I can pull up the messages you left him on his Myspace saying the same things. He doesn't really want you he was just trying to get some proof that you said what you really said."

I know it may sound childish..l.And I mean I agree that it does...but this is the only way to get things across to my cousin...I've tried other less childish ways, but nothing else seems to work because of how she is.

I agree with Amanda entirely. Yes, perhaps your cousin had secret inclinations to go for your boyfriend... but she was respecting you, her cousin, by saying no even when she thought that her hopes had come true and that he really liked her. The fact that you kept fishing for a different answer indicated that you wanted an excuse to be mad at her, because you feel threatened. Sure, maybe she's not right and free from blame... but neither are you, it seems.

Even if she is going after your man, you need to be mature about this. if you trust him, then what is the problem? just ignore her and be happy that you have your boyfriend. stop snooping around, because in the end thats a lot worse then her crushing on your boyfriend..
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I'll let things be...Even better I'll go and tell her straight out that I know what her intentions are and that I wish she'd stop trying to go out with him behind my back (even though he won't go out with her). I'll just make it clear to her that she has to stay out of our relationship...Stop asking him out (even after he makes it clear he doesn't want her that way).

If she gets mad at me so be it...I'm done with all this childness...It's not going to get anyone anywhere...You are all right.

Oh definately! If you've told her in a nice way, then try doing it the hard way. She'll never understand if you're doing in a nice way. She needs to know that the both of you are together and there's nothing she will do to come in between the two of you. Try telling your man to tell her that he doesn't like her and it'll probably help. I hope this helped. Good luck. if you ever need any more help, PM me.

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Just finished reading it all LOLZ
hope everything is working out 4 u now and just dont let her get to you. if she was someone to worry about you would know. she isnt. your boyf loves u. dont make it something its not.

gd luck

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