Medoa?

So in my history class we were talking about media and how it changed the entire USoA in the 1920's. Then I was talking to one of my best friends. He was telling me about how much he likes this one girl. I was just laughing at first cuz he was being very gushy about it. Then he was like dead serious and was like "But do you think she'd just like to hang out with me? I dont want to get all serious yet, but I know shes big into the media and what the world does." Then I asked him to elaborate. He said, "Well it seems like the world, via media, makes it seem like if a guy and a girl just want to hang out, they have to be "going out" and I dont want to do that yet."

So here is my question: Do you think the media affects how relationships are now a days? Do you think that we go out with most people because the media says that we should? (I know you have to like/love the person you date, but I mean does the media put things into our minds, things we think should happen?)

Sorry, thats also supposed to say "Media?" at the top, I just cant type.

Yes, obviously the media has an influence, but its hard to give you solid evidence without looking up or conducting a study, which I am so not prepared to do.

Also, tell him if he just wants to start hanging out with her, go as a group, so she doesn't get confused and think it's a date. Because if she did that maybe kind of awkward for both them.

Also believe it or not its easier to get to know someone in a group setting, or in a relaxed enviroment. I mean, dates can be pretty stressful, if you ask me!

You just confused me so much...

The media idealise and romanticise the whole concept of a relationship... it gives viewers one side of the spectrum... telling them that it is the norms of teenage courting... failing to see other alternatives...

The media makes is where most people get their ideas of what is the norm. Therefore it would not be a stretch to apply that train of thought to the world of love and relationships. There are literally ten thousand and one romance movies that show two friends (one male, one female) who go through all this shit and end up being head over heels. I'm not saying it doesn't happen but, come on, life is not that simple. Half of my friends are girls. Following that concept of the unalterable destiny of relationships forming out of every friendship would mean that I'd have been with a fourth of the school by now and still goin' strong. Incidentally I happen to not be a man-whore. Therefore it's not an end all answer to the 'friend' question. Is it easier to date someone you've been friends with? Yes. Does that make it destiny or foolproof? No.
I would tell your friend to hang out with her for a while before he tries to ask her out though. I find relationships last longer then.